Here is an article about a research report done by analyzing thousands of reports on an online discussion board. I guess they didn't analyze the reports of this forum as they may have come to an opposite conclusion.

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Study: Men Paying For Sex From Prostitutes Looking For True Love

LAS VEGAS – A new analysis of men who pay for sexual activities suggests that their true goal is finding something a bit more complicated – true love – even if it’s from the sex worker.

In this new study, Christine Milrod and co-author Ronald Weitzer analyzed 2,442 postings on an online discussion board from a sex provider review site where more than a million clients of sex workers read and post about their experiences. Approximately one-third included a discussion about emotional intimacy between sex workers and their clients, many of whom expressed a desire to grow their relationships beyond the physical level in the form of sharing private feelings and mutual love.

“In recent years, we have come to see a gradual normalization of independent escort prostitution, where sexual encounters have come to resemble quasi-dating relationships,” stated study author Christine Milrod. “Our study shows that regular clients of a particular sex provider often come to experience feelings of deep affection, which can progress into an authentic love story.”

In one survey, 32 percent of customers arrested for soliciting a prostitute said they bought sex because they ‘‘didn’t have time’’ for a conventional relationship, 28 percent did not want ‘‘the responsibilities’’ inherent in such a relationship, and 18 percent said they would ‘‘rather have sex with a prostitute than have a conventional relationship with a woman.’’

The study uncovered feelings ranging from “counterfeit intimacy” to “authentic emotional bonds” between many prostitutes and their respective customers. Motives for initial payment for sex ranged from difficulty finding a partner for simple conversation to fantasy role-playing and abuse targeting.

However, many of the customers interviewed in the study expressed emotional elements lacking in a pre-existing relationship. Many of the female sex workers interviewed said they catered to the men’s emotional needs and described many of them as, “highly respectful” and sometimes “more caring than the other men in their ‘true’ personal lives.”

One-third of them in the study said they wanted something more than the physical release of “the hobby” as it is called by many sex customers.

A Boston man cautioned, “Men in this hobby who think they are only after sex are deceiving themselves. Sex always involves emotion, with the possibility for eventual affection, closeness, and emotional connection always lurking there. People can fall in love when they least expect it. And that love can last, even while one or both parties are married … and even when one is a provider.”

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Link : http://lasvegas.cbslocal.com/2012/08/15/study-men-paying-for-sex-from-prostitute-looking-for-true-love/

Interesting study, I would say my first time almost hit me that way.  Possibly because I was somewhat on the rebound but it was such a dangerous feeling, luckily my buddy was around to drag me away from the situation and forced me to think more clearly about it.  As much as I would like to think that there is some kind of hope for a bro to fall for a WG and have a long lasting relationship, it is inevitable to have certain things in the back of your mind that would hinder a working relationship.  For those who are lucky enough (and I use that loosely for whoever disagrees with my opinion) to find something solid out of the encounter, I wish you luck but I doubt I will ever let myself fall into that situation again as it was definitely a very irrational situation (even tho love is never rational).

I dont know Dog, I think a lot of what is written on this forum would tend to agree with those results (not, the "looking for love" part, but the general tendency for affections to grow between a punter and WG who regularily see each other;  and the level of respect and understanding we tend to show WGs is certainly higher then the general population.)

You know, that feeling when you first get touched all the way till you're finished?  That's true love baby!,,  afterwards not so much cuz you just want to get the fuck out of there.

My first time going to a hooker was a revenge on my gf who two timed me. It was sucky coz i didnt know the mongering environment and ended up with a heavy make up aunty brrr....

not gonna lie - been many times when taking the macau ferry back, my heart was sinking. the emotional high is really something to be careful of

The most honest relationship between a man and a woman, is that of a client and a prostitute. I can think of no better way to start a relationship. Honesty.

I don't think this report came to the right conclusions. I'd put it more like this.

There's an "in the moment" intimacy that is very different from the kind of long term love that leads to marriage and children. I've been reading and contributing to these kinds of fora for many years. To me, it seems that the majority of posts talk about sex, not love. And of the remaining minority that do talk about intimate feelings, they're almost all talking about the kind of "in the moment" intimacy that comes from touching, being treated "lovingly", and so on. Occasionally, you get someone talking about how he fell in love with a working girl, and were later on let down when he found out he was one of 6 water buffalos sending her money every month.

I *love* that feeling of connection that comes from seeing a WG who makes a connection, especially when repeating. Especially with an independent or part-timer. But I don't think it's true love as per the article.

Heck, we've all experienced this in ordinary life. For example, we go to a nice restaurant, and are "cared for" by the waitress, remembering for months afterwards how nice he/she was. I don't think this means we were looking for or found true love.

So, I think this article misses the mark. Love ... yes, of a kind, but not the kind of "true love" the author talks about in the article.

JMHO -- Gherkin

[ Last edited by  ggherkin at 18-2-2013 07:02 ]

Call it what you will--"love" or "in the moment intimacy"--that "walking on the clouds" feeling has a very simple chemical basis...your pituatary gland producing oxytocin flooding your system.  Like any drug, it can be addictive and makes withdrawal unpleasant.  Obviously, certain physiologies are more susceptible and/or immune to its affects.

No, I'm not a doctor, but I watch alot of House, M.D. ;)

Not convinced, I think it applies to first timers. I obviously remember the first time I visited a prostitute, I was so infatuated with her. Maybe also partly because I didn't have a gf that time. I visited her many times (the most I've ever visited a prostitute) and thought I liked her. But the thing about liking a prostitute is that she gives me an emotional roller coaster ride, jealousy and wonder if she is like that to every customer etc. But soon after I started punting more, it's just paid sex to me. No more emotions involved, jut paid sex - pay, sex and go.

I am not convinced.  The study relies on postings on an online discussion board from a sex provider review site.  How true are these online discussions? Do they really reflect what the discussants have in mind?

The better way to enjoy the sex with sex worker is to pay the money and have a good time and move on. Having regular girl also give some problems in the long run but not always. All depending on the girl and the client.
When men started to see the working girls, they trends to have some feeling towards the girls due to the fact that they relate the girls in normal way. Once they started to learn more by the experiences with working girls then they will realise that the prostitution is very complicated business and not for everyone and better have a good time and pay the money and move on.  There are many stories out there that lots have bad and horrible ending. And also very few happy ending as well.
At the end, people pay for sex for various reasons. However, if someone looking for love better got somewhere else. They have to put some effort to find a suitable partner. In most cases, people who visit sex workers more likely to see them again and again in their life time with all sort of excuse.
Most of the male wants nice family with beautiful young attractive wife only sleep with him and he wants to have sex with all the sex works and tell all sorts of lies to his wife how he is faithful to her.  
Just for thought, how they react when they find out that their wife is sleeping around many young fit sexy males who have very large dicks
I have been through with sex workers and seen them for many years and learned many things. For me, when I go into the room and she becomes my love of my life and we will have a wonderful sexy time and once all finished and say good bye and the door closed, I will be in the real world and get on with my usual life.  It likes a stage, you put your costumes and you become a character and once the curtain closes you take off your costumes and become yourself again.