I'm married and I have a baby. I'm also very happy in my marriage and my wife is good looking etc. Yes, I've done 141 for years now and done the Wanchai scene a bit.  This doesn't get me all hyped up, just a physical release and go.  Though, in recent years I've for some reason don't find this exciting.... I find chasing a single local girl and dumping her gives me kicks.  

Basically, I have no interest to do anything with these local women like having sex or any of that.

I just want to get them all excited and interested (eg. I act perfect, pretend I'm awesome, I buy them expensive gifts like MacBooks, I buy them expensive dinners, I tell them everything to make them happy and think I'm the perfect bf/husband) and when they are in love with me, I get enjoyment in dumping them or just disappearing to crush their feelings etc.  Its like I have get excited by seeing other women get hurt... maybe because I was embarrassingly dumped 10 years ago by my ex-gf who crushed me publicly in front of everyone.

Do I have a serious mental issue? OR do some other guys actually do the same as me?

Buy them Macbooks? seem like you are really "hurting" them lol

Don't you think that one day you'll eventually meet again your match?

Why dont you buy me a Macbook and "dump" me, ill be more than happy to help, if indeed sex is not what your after

While it's normal to feel vindictive and perhaps even lash out at other women, perhaps even using them and the like, after getting crushed like you did.

However, now we're talking 10 years ago?! Seriously something is messed up in you head, that wound emotionally has never closed for you. Trying to hurt these other women isn't helping you get back at your ex from long ago! And even if it did, at some point you really should just let it go, enjoy life and stop trying to get satisfaction by trying to hurt others because of one fucking girl from years ago!!!

Virgin Boy,


I've encountered people similar to you who like to go out and press girl's buttons. You go out there to get the girl to fall in love with you, give them that perfect hope and then you crush them in the very end. You like to see them build up that excitement and in the meantime you have to put up with a whole lot of crap from the girl along the way. You hold in all of her insane demands and haughty attitudes and once you got their hearts you crush them, kind of like a payback for the misery along the way.

I suggest that you be careful on who you play around with, as karma usually has a way to bite you back in the butt. Places like HK or other places are a small place. What goes around comes around, and when you crush a girl's heart- girls can be even more vindictive than you can imagine. It could really ruin your marriage and family if and when she comes back with evidence of you wooing her.

There's perhaps a reason why you have a loving wife and a child. it's because perhaps 10 years ago, when you were crushed by your Ex your received a better life in return, while your Ex perhaps suffered from her deeds. Old wounds are hard to heal, but you should try to at least be at peace with yourself.

AsnDragon--I know all too well what goes around comes around.

Virginboy,

(What's up with that handle btw?)

Either you are really mean down to your core, in which case there's no hope for you and one of those girls is going to use her new Macbook to post you pic on the web, where your wife will find it and be devastated, and you'll lose your kids, home and all your money.

OR

You live a life that's too regimented for you and you're looking for someway to break out and be bad for a bit.  If that's the case then find a different game, something that doesn't hurt others, but whatever it is work out that evil power trip on something inanimate, not real people.

Visit a psychiatrist. Good luck with yourself.

I have a buddy who is just as messed up in the head . . . does the exact same thing except that he beats them too . . . I swear he is going to get arrested one day for domestic violence . . . the weird thing is that he keeps getting girls (for him to beat in eventually).

Totally messed up in the head.

Pretty messed up dude lol I, personally have never had that thought, people get dumped all the time, including myself lol you move on and try to make as much money as possible

Hate...so destructive
Love ....so constructive
Mongering ...so heavenly.

SEAJ

Ps edit
@OP - why the emphasis on "Local" gals i/o just gals in general?
What are you REALLY trying to say? Hmmm...!

[ Last edited by  SEAJ at 15-5-2012 10:52 ]

I remember you having problems one time before with a hg and goose was attacking you about sth you supposedly did. (I forget what you did exactly) I remember defending you. Maybe he was right. You really need help, which you probably realise already.  Get it before your hatred towards women results in sth worse for her (you I don't care about!)
#Off topic: Why the hell did you post this in Mongerer's Lounge - not about punting just some wacko with a warped mind?

Virginboy, your condition is common.  It's called psychopathy.  See Wikipedia:


There is no cure for psychopathy.  Basically assholes remain assholes their entire lives.  Interestingly, it's not completely their fault, as psycopathy is very heriditable.

So long as you don't murder anyone, I think you'll be all right.  By that I mean, you'll live out your life like the rest of us punters, just with far fewer friends, a lot of people who hate your guts, and a general lack of respect from friends and foes alike.

I'm trying to understand this ... you emphasized 'local' women ...
does this mean you will not do this to PRC, other Asian and foreign women ?

This thread is closed at the request of the OP