I been reading the forum and sex141.com for over a year, probally close to two. My predicament, i'm 25, make good money from my job. My girl is in London, for a year aready and i don't know when she'll come back at the mininum 2 more years or 4 more years......  I'm in New York, i can get girls on my own, which i have them come over, but never done anything. Felt like i would be cheating. I been holding off and basically jacking it for the last year or so. Should i go approach something in New york for the first time, i have a huge sexual appetite and jacking it off for the last year couldn;t do anything, also have the fear i'll catch aid or other dieases, sorry if this is all wrong. Should i go try it for the first time? Any one have any tip or any advices, would really appreciate it,  thanks guys.

dude...it sounds like you've done an incredible job of staying loyal to your GF back in London.  I'd say if you've made it this far for her,  you really love her and don't want to hurt her or damage the "pure" relationship you have been wanting to have with her.  if this is the case...then I don't think you should give in to the temptation.  Stay on the course you were heading.

Bro I think you should really decide whether or not you want to do this first before you go into it. It'd be a shame if you did it and regretted it.

Bro, you say you've been reading the forum for nearly 2 years, but your gal's only been gone for one year. So you
were already reading the forum for nearly a year while you were with your gal. Why was that? Sounds to me like
you just want some encouragement to go ahead and do what you really want. My advice - go ahead; just be careful
and don't catch anything.

2 years lurking but no action?  What are you doing here and not looking for a job in London?  I would never leave a lady alone for that long of a time, you are basically asking to be fucked literally.  On a lighter note, if you want to get some poon, I can always direct you because I am pretty well versed in NYC punting.  Feel free newbie.

Life is Valuable!.....Who knows what will happen the next day.....
Just to empty your sacks and then why not....!..WG or One night Stand
Maybe its just the guilty thing which is stopping you......being faithfull to your partner i do respect that too.....
It has happened to me...........

My First GF. We met in UK and i was working while she was studying.....
A year later she graduated and for career purposes she moved to HK which i would never object and i did support her desicion. I know it would be hard for both of us and Trusting each other would be the key.....
Me being her first stable BF and her being my first ever GF.  Sex?. I was her first......
Anyway she was away and i would visit her in a years time for a long vacation. Almost on the phone everyday infact and both  of us were missing each other badly and tears from her on some of our conversations....
Of course i had a sexual urge...but nope i did not pursue....didnt visit wgs nor have one night stands...
The only time i felt better was when i asked her to masturbate while speaking to me and she did.....i just wanted to hear her because it sounded beautiful.....very much happy with the outcame until she said afterwards and got her breath back..`I am so wet now`....grrrrrr....
A year passed and we finally met and from the airport by taxi back to her flat....i could not keep my hands off.
Got to the flat and without even unpacking we were like animals for the next couple of hours and the rest of the night.....

My views now is very much different now and what i want to do ....I just do it!
Maybe my present GF is very understanding and knows a man has needs.....She did say to me that if i ever visit a WG to relief yourself....Just Dom up and dont tell me....
Great girl!

Again, "lau jing but lau ching"

Words to live by when you have an important significant other.

The NYC - London route is one of the cheapest in international air travel. A budget economy round-trip ticket goes for around $500 (including fees), and London is only about 7 hrs flying time away, so instead of blowing $300 for a hour with a WG, why not spend a few long weekends each month in London. If you've never been, London is one of the greatest cities in the world; as Samuel Johnson said, "When a man is tired of London, he is tired of life; for there is in London all that life can afford." Long sex-drenched, romantic weekends in London! You've got the perfect excuse to go.

(Kind of funny that a guy in NYC should post to a HK forum asking advice on what to do about his GF in London. )

Thanks guys, yeah i been on this before she left, and she was ok with it. My excuse was basically that i had a strong urge and she didn't want to do it, so i had to take care of myself... Yeah i visted her twice last year. we been dating for over 3 years since college. Well through out this year she has mention about seeing other people, various other that really hurted me. But next day she'll act if nothing happen and keep at it, she's really manipulated i would say, a shanghai girl, but we gone through so much together and with all the memory and everything i still feel i love her. My Parents are the nicest parent, Never  really dislike anyone but hates her with all their guts. Basically if do choose her in the long run say goodbye to any relationship with parents.  Yeah Puff daddy i think we are in pretty similar situation, she did mention something like that about if you do it just don't tell her about it. but after she said that just made me more self-conscious not to do it, lol. Maybe i should try what you have done.

Seems like you've ceded far too much control to this girl. Girls with powerful personalities who deny sex can be very seductive to a certain type of guy. Find yourself a NYC GF - and then take a more objective look at your present relationship. People often get themselves into a state of mental dependency on others that is never healthy, and then mistake that dependency for love. Later, when things are over, we look back and kick ourselves.

One thing I've learned in life - never fall in love with a woman who is not interested in having sex with you. Such relationships NEVER work out.

If this the beginning of your relationship, what might it be like after married for 10 years and perhaps with kids? It wouldn't get better...