i've been asking myself the same question about the sex in my relationship. i enjoy a bbbj just as much as the next guy, but trying to get one from my SO is like trying to steal gold from fort knox. when we first started i kind of got her into it then she slowly stop and it would take me a long time just to bug her about giving a bj. it got to a point where i gave up and said jokingly that im going to have to get it somewhere else but i really wasnt joking and she said go ahead like i wasnt going to do it. dont get me wrong i love her, but i also love a good bbbj especially cim. at first i felt bad having to seek out WG's for their services, but really im the victim here. you cant deprive a man out of a bbbj. i give her anything she wants so she cant complain there, but she doesnt give me what i want so i should have the right to go out and get a good bbbjtcimws.

Do any of you married punters regret putting the ring on? IMO if your sex life with your SO is dull, and you enjoy different girls, it would probably be a decent idea to divorce, if you lost feelings for your partner. Dat freedom

I myself am not married but I know of people who got married young and regret it. The problem with the divorce for them is splitting up assets and children. Sometimes it's just easier to stay together. Also I would think there is still an emotional connection with the SO that goes beyond the lack of physical connection.

Well ABSOLUTELY there is a connection waaaaay beyond sex.  An incredibly strong one.

I have been with my SO a looooong time.  I know many, many bros in my circle of friends who have been with their SOs a looong time.  But I know few who gets laid by their SO as often as they wish.  It seems to be a fact a life:  most gal's libidos fade before most guys.  

But:  everything else I get from my SO more than makes up for this one lacking contribution.  I found a way to fulfill this need.  But having a true "partner" in life is quite special:  someone who has your back no matter what; someone who you know willl do anything, go to any length, to make sure you are okay... --- I could go on and on with the cliches of a loving relationship.  But I'll just sum it up by saying I couldnt imagine not taking care of her.

Nope, don't regret it at all. There's sex, there is love, and there is marriage. Never confuse the three. If you can get all three out of one person, then good on you. But... That's not what most people get, and honestly, any two of the three is not a bad deal.

What I do regret some times is not being more clear about my libido before the marriage. Maybe I should have spent more time finding someone more Good to go with some of my more deviant thoughts. But then, she might have had problems that I don't have with my SO now. It's a crap shoot, and you just have to play it as it comes.

We got married for some reasons and true, sex is one of the reasons. I completely agree with Wander's take on this: Sex is really only one part of a special relationship but NOT THE ONLY thing in the relationship.

I too can't imagine not taking care of my SO and not having her around and vice versa, she couldn't bear to live without me either. Even though I don't get as much sex as I'd like to, there are so many other things that we enjoy with each other. I love her for what she is and not for what I want her to be. Everyone has their virtues and shortfalls. We just have to learn to accept them and learn to appreciate each other on the best part of each other. Relationship is also about tolerance and acceptance. If there is really no way to work things out than maybe you have chosen the wrong partner. But remember this: it takes two to tango.

My SO and I have gone through so much thick and thins and all that only served to reinforce our relationship, making it ever stronger. We have been through so much that sometimes we will look back, talk about it and that makes us really appreciate what we have gained thus far.

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