I just met a woman and she had a few Bud Light. I have to say that she was on an emotional roller coaster. One minute she would be laughing and smiling. The next she would be crying and hating herself. She told me that her ex hit her on the face. She showed me again and again how he hit her. First with a fist, then couple slaps, and fist again. From listening to her, they were married for a while, 5 years plus and he hit her before. Yet she said that she missed him? After telling her that she should get him out of her life and all that, I don't think she will do it.

WTF is wrong with women?

somehow some like to be treated 'bad'... it's a weird world

I think there are quite a few women like that. They are more afraid of being alone then being beaten. I think any man that beats a lady should have the shit beat out of him.

I have an ex that is currently with a guy that beats her. She keeps running back to him. She always calls me up when she has no where or no one else left to help her. I feel bad for her but I think she deserves it now because she never learns.

I think girls tend to go for guys that are a little on the bad boy side. And then they always have this mentality that they can change the guy. Sometimes I feel like the nice guys usually get the short end of the stick in life.

abused women are as old as the institution of marriage.  Most women find their experiences are minimized & misunderstood.  I also think I read somewhere that there is a real decent odds that the abuser is capable of serious harm to even death in these cases.  This women srsly needs help or support from real friends/familu around her

Classic example is here:

http://www.heraldsun.com.au/ente ... rf96x-1225913029548

This guy was found guilty 3 years ago of bashing his missus - of course the Courts did nothing because he produced a heap of witnesses saying how great he was... Anyway, this new chick hitches up with him and seems surprised when he turns into a sicko monster.

I think speedracer is spot on - initially they go for the bad boy type, then get stuck in a relationship and don't know how to get out of it.

that's pretty close ... even if it's not literally true in all cases it relates to the underlying factor in all attraction.

Basically the most powerful sexual attraction is towards the opposite.  This is of course not just the obvious Man <-> Woman dynamic, but takes place on multiple simultaneous dimensions ... some examples might be:-
  gentle <-> strong
  sensitive <-> dominating
  giving <-> self-centered
  confident <-> insecure
  beautiful <-> plain
and much much more - you can make your own list.  Opposites attract.  Period.  

But all that's a distraction.  A mental masturbation ...

When you meet a real person it's best to forget the rationalising explanation ... just accept that what is going on is common, even normal, and remember that the disfunctional aspect is actually no more than a perfectly healthy behaviour that's got out of whack.  What matters more is what to do about it ...

Key thing is a woman like your drunk friend is a LOT of work.  But if you have the time and the patience you can have a major impact, just by being there and listening to her story.  

... no time or space here to say how ... but she needs sensitive counselling.  If she's your friend, you can encourage her to build her confidence to talk to others, firstly to her friends, and maybe later encourage her to seek counselling.  But rather than tell her to go and get help, it's best to let her figure it out herself that something is harming her.  Have a counsellor's phone number in your PDA somewhere, and only give it to her when she asks for it.  Tough thing is if you send her the vibe that you think she's a nutcase (even if she is) there's a good chance she'll retreat even deeper into the only relationship she currently knows: the abusive one.  Best thing is to demonstrate through your own actions what it is to respect yourself, if necessary by setting limits about how much of your time she is allowed to waste with her shit.

It's just a sad situation. Some women just holds out hope that it will get better. Thedude can treat her bad 9 out of 10 times and make it up by being nice 1 out of 10 times and that would be enough for the women to stay in the relationship. It is almost like quitting an addiction. Deep down they know it's bad but needs a lot of help toquit.

Just saw another article about the chick I mentioned before:

http://www.news.com.au/entertain ... rfmvr-1225915095680

I thought it was funny that the summary at the top says she has " Psychological stuff to  work through". No shit!