I'm definitely agreeing with you that things are out of balance. Way too much stress and pressure ... interesting Trivial statistic: the vast majority of modern diseases have an underlying root in stress.
So yes, slowing it down, taking it easy, letting the guy cut in in front of you, etc. is a smart way to live.
Apropos, last weekend I took a 2km walk home instead of driving - so instead of a 3 minute drive it was a leisurely 30 minute stroll. I got to see a ton of stuff I never saw before - trees, flowers, streams, nature doing its thing.
Where it gets interesting is that, ultimately, stopping and doing nothing is unsatisfying. It's every bit as empty as a meaningless career. So having done that for a while once I got back in the saddle.
The reality is that we do need a level of challenge to experience the best of life. Psychologists such as Mikszentmihaly's research into Flow cover it very well.
Again, I do agree the issue is that for most people the balance is too much in the direction of striving and achieving in order to be able to buy a bigger Thing (what was it again we're supposed to be saving up for???). I could go into a whole new rant about the cynical exploitation of people's dreams by government and big business, but there isn't enough time in a day to cover it properly.
My caution is that making materialism wrong and eliminating it from life is just as wrong as making it the goal of life.
It sounds like you yourself probably do have a conscious and considered balance in your life - you clearly have enough money to indulge yourself in an expensive hobby
but without the stress of feeling you're constrained by any commitment to material goals.
I'm just throwing a spanner in the works
by gently challenging anyone who believes that $1m is in any way "a lot" ... and equally challenging anyone who feels the only way to get it is either by doing unreasonably hard work or by a stroke of blind luck ...
Taking the research on Flow at face value, adding to it the impact of learning and growth, the conclusion is that more IS better. Not necessarily more money per se, but more of everything INCLUDING money.
In that context my question (to the Forum) is if you could have $2m instead of $1m, without compromising your quality of life or health, how would that change your choices?