hi everyone.
i dont know if this topic is allowed here but if it's not, let know i will delete it. I just needed some help.

I am a 39 years old man. not to deny it but i do often goes to thailand for my business and i do have an agency there which kinna help me to relax and "enjoy" thailand.

Now comes the problem, since i have been away so often, my wife dont seem to have the urge for sex anymore. Not that i dont want it but sex through half way, she stops and boy, i was half way up the pole. we tried counseling and taking supplement but so far it doesnt work.

I know you guy out there is gonna tell me that maybe my wife is seeing someone else. but i am sure she does not.

Do women have some thing like viagra out there? Something to make them wanting for sex within the hour taking it?
One of my pals told me about Spanish fly and he said he had tested on his wife which sends his wife to the wild side. upon checking things out, i found that Spanish fly have toxin that may cause damage or even death.

any advice? help a brother out....

Wxxd..........

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probably u can start up with a nice long foreplay rather than engaging in the act right away?
i think there's a supplement thing that you can take that increase libidos, but i forgot what it called..
i'll try to find out and i'll post it up if i came across it

My wife would often stop cold in the middle of our love-making...  particularly if I asked if she would let me CIM for an extra fee...   

Have fun, CGP

Suppliments like horney goat weed are avaliable, but they are not as fast as v, I only know abt them coz they are advertised in supermarkets and vitamin stores. No personal experiece thou...

Maybe you should have a good conversation with your wife. I heard woman around 35-40 decire more sex because it is more difficult to let them cum.

how about go the way of the east and try out some all-natural oriental medicine? It's more common for the guys, the ginseng, ghana, etc.. but surely they must have a cabinet full for the ladies too? (goat weed one of it?)

think these are lady boosters too (from the banner at the top)
http://www.loveshop.hk/hk/produc ... tid=3&expand=92

thanks guys... trying to get herbs now.. been sourcing out for it... fingers cross...

she has been taking the supplements ( western meds ) but not showing any improvement...
doctors say it might be Psychology wise...
thinking of letting some other people to handle my job in Thailand and stay home...

you got to understand my feeling bro.. stop in the middle of it and i am there thinking WTF?

i did foreplay, damn, i even tried toys, but the thing about it, half way through she loses mood and wants to stop.. only some times she lets it through just because i wants it.

thanks guy out there for trying to help. sorry to burden you guys about this where this should be a pure 141 site...

Look there's a whole bunch that goes into a GF / Wife and sex.... She generally needs to be in the mood, not just in the mood, but in the mood to do it with YOU. If you treat her like an ass then she'll clamp her legs down tight. Get romantic with her, I don't mean buying her flowers and stuff, I mean just give her more attention, let her know she's on your mind.

If your wife likes getting massages as my GF does then its the best kind of foreplay out there.  If she just likes the occasional massage start her off with some light massage when she's clothed, while you're watching TV, on her legs or shoulders....

Tell her it will feel better with massage oil which of course needs to be done in bed and of course and oil massage needs to be done naked or almost naked, get a light massage oil, baby lotion is ok in the begining. Give her a caouple good massages DON'T GET HAM SUP i n your first few massages! Keep you hands off her privates, but you can get close!   But you need to kiss her every now and then, everywhere, arms, legs, shoulders, butt cheeks.

Start on her shoulders, back, lower back, move on to her her butt and the sides of her butt, NOT THE BUTT CRACK!!, choose a leg start on her thighs, move to her calves and back to her thighs, do the same on the other leg, finish off on the feet.  This should take you at minimum 45 minutes to and hour!

Don't worry if you're rock hard while doing the massage let your cock touch her naturally, this lets her know that you want her, and that she's still desirable to you.  After the veggie massage she might be the one to initate sex...if not keep being patient...

After a few veggie massages with baby lotion, switch to a more musky, minty scent, lavender is good with a bit of peppermint, don't get too musky with something like patchuli.  The air will get more rich with the musky scent, your massages can get a bit more "HAM SUP", near the end of your massage brush up against her privates as though "ACCIDENTLY" when you're doing her thighs.  The peppermint will have a warming / cooling effect on her pussy and clit, it can/may stimulate her sexually.

You'll have to judge her reactions to the accidental touching, she might give you more space to give your hands access to her privates, she might lift her ass off the bed a little as you touch, not moving at all is still good as long as she doesn't verbally complain...i've often found my girl dripping wet by the time I get there, if she's responding have a "few" more accidents heheh....joke about it with her, get more persistent with the touching, if after a few touches she seems to be responding you can just get 100% ham sup and stimulate her in earnest, rub her clit for a while, stick a finger in,  your other hand can still be partially giving a massage.  If you get this far....just start fucking her or flip her over and fuck her, trust me she will be wanting to get fucked. After you've had one of these sexual massages she'll be looking forward to them in the future.

One thing about massage oils, keep the oil light, a thick massage oil will not go down well with her, she doesn't want to be all sticky and neither do you.  Don't use too much.  If you mix your own oil don't use too much essential oils relative to the base oil, if you use too much of an essential oil it can become a skin irritant. get good quality essential oild, don't buy the cheap shit.

Sorry...  I didn't mean to seem callous.  I can understand that this would make you feel like sh*t.  I hope the stimulants work.  But I suggest you try couples counseling.  So much of sex with women is mental.  I would not be surprised if there were some unspoken issue troubling her...  Good luck!

Right on!!  

If your wife is about your age, it's quite likely to be some sort of hormonal thing - her body is changing.  

I'd say it's almost certainly not because you've been away, that old adage "absence makes the heart grow fonder" applies to other parts of the anatomy also

So if she's not responding it's something else.  

And if you're still doing the things you used to do when you first met, it's not you it's her.  Doesn't solve the problem of course, but at least you know that more of the same won't fix it: you have to find a new bag of tricks to use.  

Question: is she motivated to satisfy you, or is she so totally out of sex that she would allow you a gf?  Don't me - some do, but have to handle her insecurity in the process.  Question is, does she "own" the problem, or is she acting like you should put up with her behaviour?  

You said you'd tried counselling - have you tried behaving in different ways, treating her differently?  Sometimes what girls SAY they want and what they RESPOND TO are completely and utterly poles apart.  Are there times that you see her getting hot?  What sort of things do you see her responding to?

Have you heard of Lovegra, the pink pill, which is kind of Viagra for women? If not, you may google it to find more info. AllDayChemist.com sells it real cheap. If you (your wife) do give it a try, let us know how it works.

i dun think spanish fly is available legally: at least not in HK....correct me if i am wrong...
as for age wise: am facing likewise problemo: thats why am at 141 sites as well....
dun get me wrong; me luv my wifey just as much....

Viagra has an interesting effect on "healthy" men AND women. It makes them fuck like they were 18 again! On 20-something folks, its supposed to let them perform like porn stars. At least that's what I've heard...

I'm guessing that's the reason why most of us take the stuff. I suspect that most punters don't need it to perform, but to OVERPERFORM!

Viagra DOES have an effect on women, so let her try some. Start with a low dose and go up from there if she doesn't exhibit uncomfortable side effects (like spontaneous bleeding, night blindness, fever blisters, heart attack, stroke, migraines, etc.)... oh and none of those are really side effects you should expect.

You've inspired me to give some to my girlfriend and see how it works for her.

-G