Spent the night in Dongguan for work last night. After dinner I decided to check out the nearby shady hotel which offered foot massages.

I'm instantly greeted by the mamasan informing me about the prices of their services. I chose the bikini massage w/HE for 138. Took the elevator up to the top floor, and surprised by the nice decor.

Manager brought in girls one by one. First girl looked like the typical mainland teen with crazy permed hair. Second girl was a bit overweight,  NMCOT. Third girl was perfect; slender, healthy, cute with long hair.

She didn't look very excited and even a bit tired. I tried to speak to her a bit but she gave some one word answers and asked me to take a shower.
The massage commences and I already know the massage was going to suck cause she lacked strength. She starts asking me about my age etc and we start chatting it up. I find out the following:
- Shes 19 from Guangxi. ( At first she told me she was 28 but i refused to believe that)
- Has a younger brother to take care back home. The only reason she is working in the business is to support her brother.
- This is her 3rd day working at this place.
- She plans to work in the business for another half year, make some money and go.
- She dislikes the job very much and apparently all girls do.
- She wants to become a dancer one day.
- She hates people drink, gamble, smoke or do drugs.

So after conversing with her for 60 minutes, I am pretty turned off because I sincerely feel that I am paying/forcing this very nice girl to do something that she really dislikes. Brothers, do you have this problem or is it just me?

She turns me around, and then tells me she's going to start the HJ. I ask her if she can provide other services and she tells me she can do FS but don't tell the manager and i can just give her how ever much I feel like as tip. I agree and she goes off to shower. This is my first time attempting to go FS because I was just too attracted to her.

Its really cold in the room and I covered myself with towels just so that I can stop shivering. She comes back from shower, starts giving me a half Russian ( Half cause not very well done). And then I realize THAT MY BUDDY IS REFUSING TO WORK. I get slightly turned on but not rock hard. I tried to help the issue by fingering her but she doesn't seem to like that. She puts the condom on and attempts to cap me eventhough I'm not solid, doesn't work. We try this a few more times and in the end, we just snuggled and chatted the rest of the 30-40 minutes.

So brothers, what the hell is wrong with me? My buddy just simple refused to work. Have you guys experienced this before? I think it didn't work for three reasons: 1) She spoke to me like a friend and it definitely felt like I was attempting to make love to a friend 2) I knew she didnt want to do this 3) It was really really cold in the room.
In the end we exchanged numbers and said we'd keep in touch. I said I'll visit her someday if she moves back to guilin.

My buddy is back in full force this morning.

Sorry for the long repotish chat topic.

Might have been the guilt trip and you just felt bad for trying, usually when your distracted with something on your mind, you won't be able to relax and perform.  Happens to everyone I'm sure...

My buddy will refuse to work with me if a WG decides to play with the boys, it does nothing for me so I always have to tell them to not bother with them...

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OHMIGAWD!!!   You're in deep doo-doo here.  Once it happens, you'll never be able to get it up again - EVER!!  
Might as well search for information on the best monastery to join.  

Muahahah!! Sorry bro - just HAD to do that!!

Nah... don't worry about it - happens to all of us and happens sooner or later.  The trick now is to NOT panic or get all desperate - and most importantly - do NOT turn to the easiest "cure" available in this our modern world - taking Viagra/Cialis/other erectile dysfunction chemicals.

From anecdotal evidence as well as tales told to me by friends - once you start taking these chemical enhancers, you're pretty well "hooked" on it for the rest of your life; anytime you're even contemplating doing "it," coz you're worried that buddy ain't gonna work, you end up first taking it.  And there's no turning back on this as psychologically, you Are hooked on the fear of possible failure unless you did take the chemical. That plus the fact that these chemicals  does turn the clock back and make you feel as if you're 18 YO again - well - just too much of a good thing!

Let me assure you that even if it happens once, twice or even quite a few more times - it does NOT mean the end of your sexual life without chemicals. All you need to do is to make sure that your next encounter is one bereft of any undue pressures - fatigue, alcohol, time constraints etc - and most importantly go do it with your SO or a GF or even a WG you had previously enjoyed being with and successful with.  

From my personal experience - there is surprisingly a lot of life in the old dog even as one advances in age!  And if you DO ever have to resort to chemical assistance, then at least do it only after you've tried as above and still continue to "fail"

Good luck there bro!

SEAJ

Happened to me before. Happened the time where i was overthinking and was not able to concentrate. Sometimes i have the girl give me a little bit of BJ and once i start getting into it, the problem will be solved.

Dude, once you realized you weren't all that hard, it was over.  It's all mental and if you think there is a problem, it is.  Just relax and go back there to show her next time how big and strong you can be for her ;)

its happened to me before. The room was cold for one and she was not enjoying it. I would not worry about it.

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Thank you
SEAJ

definitely because you felt that she was not into it, and do a certain degree she was being taken advantage of.   Although she's a willing participant for money, you probably went soft after you felt guilty that she was doing something she didn't want to do.

thanks bros for all the support.

I've been thinking about her all day. I'm debating whether to give this another shot tomorrow night! It's really idiotic since I know she doesn't like the business but my buddy is telling me otherwise. She's going to be leaving the area for good later thismonth so i feel like i want to make this work...else i'll never know!

and what if my buddy backs out last minute haha... that would be the worse.

don't sweat it too much, its happened to just about everybody.  Next time, don't get into any serious questions with the girls about her background, pretend she's enjoying it, and u'll do just fine. =)