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Post at 18-9-2010 09:44  Profile P.M. 
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how to talking with foreigner???

I feel uncomfort when talk with foreigner, my voice being small, my eyes bashfulness looking their face, have a stammering tongue....it is more serious when I try to dating girl

how can I become more confident to talk to foreigner??? any one have suggestion?? thank you
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Reply #1 neoi99's post

first, read the book:
How to Win Friends and Influence People is one of the first bestselling self-help books ever published. Written by Dale Carnegie

second, ascertain the foreign language you want to converse in

third, take some lessons in that language

forth, go to a doctor and get treatment for stammering

fifth, got to a plastic surgeon and make your eyes less bashful

sixth, find professional courses for confidence training

I hope this list helps !

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I suggest go fuck some foreigner WG first. Repeat as often as necessary. Then you will find your confidence rock-solid. Trust me, it works!

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why you still want to date a foreign gal in that case given you don't even have confident to talk to them?
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There's a universal cure, sold over-the-counter in any of the bars in Hong Kong, in a variety of palatable concoctions. Just ask for "alcohol".  

There's an optimum dosage - just between the point at which you become more relaxed, and the point at which you start to lose your mind completely - you need to find out the best dosage for you, which for most people is between 2 to 4 "units".  

Fortified this way, you can proceed to the second step: practice.  As you talk to more foreigners, you will find you feel less afraid of them.  Start out easily, by talking to the ones that look plain and lonely.  Pretty soon you will find yourself being more discriminating and talking to ones you are attracted to, instead of ones you just feel safe next to.

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I suggest you stop thinking about foreigners and learn to communicate properly with people of your own race first.
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In most people, alcohol just makes you more of what you naturally are.  So that might not work for you.  But it's certainly the first thing to try.  The other thing you can try is to get a friend to go to the bar with you and do all the leg work.  If they find a girl and tell her about your problem she may take it as a challenge.  However, speaking from experience, this can become really tedious for the friend.
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all you need is just a confidence, and try to smile, keep smile, but dont to often bcoz they will think you crazy...

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QUOTE:
Originally posted by twiceAweek at 18-9-2010 10:17

... go to a plastic surgeon and make your eyes less bashful

Huh? I don't think bashful eyes are a physical condition...




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Reply #8 ineedagirl's post

confidence is a key ability I don't have... however I dont want to use alocohol to reduce me fear, maybe I try to take some english course with native teacher for facing speak with foreigner
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Reply #10 neoi99's post

Paid help certainly makes a lot of sense: you can build up your confidence knowing they won't laugh at you and walk away ...

Key is to start somewhere.  

Another idea if you're nervous about approaching people face-to-face is to start with e-mail and online chat.  That way you can get used to finding the words you want without being pushed to make a conversation flow ... knowing there's no judgement about your appearance or physical mannerisms you may have, since they can't see you ... then later you can start to meet people you already know online ... only later starting to talk to complete strangers.




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