a WG i was with two months ago is coming back next week and i will definitely have her again. most WGs, i just fuck, chat a little, pay, and leave. but with this particular one, i talk to her like she's my love and i have feelings for her. should i let her know, if yes, how so?

first question is as a brother here i have to remind you...
you know what you are talking about here correct?

should.... the answer is obviously i don't think you should fall for a wg.

if you plan to tell her just book a session find her... make love... if you still have that feeling tell her...

please think twice bro. not that we're pouring cold water on you, but the consequences are not worth that fleeting feeling of "love."

Firstly, how much time have you spent with this WG, 2 months ago? Don't think you're in love bro, in lust and infactuated maybe. Just not possible to fall in love so easily or do you even know what love is? If it's infactuation, then you better wake up as loving a WG can only come to no good.

Think you're either putting us on or you're really immature.

[ Last edited by  geoduck at 8-8-2010 11:49 ]

There have been several threads about this stuff and the fallout. I suggest reading some of them.

Another thing to consider is let's say you tell her you love her and she has feelings for you. During this time that you have had feelings, you have had sex with other WGs and she has had sex with other punters. Does that change how you feel? If you decide to pursue it, do both of you stop participating in 141 activities? Just some things to ask in case they come up.

MMAte - Don't confuse a GFE with love. Test out if you are vulnerable to this confusion by getting out and about with as many girls as you can who are good GFE merchants. THen decide if you crave this girl. Then book her over night, and for a week, BUT KEEP PAYING and never say you love her. It will cost you more in the long run if you do.

There's this Vietnamese cafe server in Little Saigon, Orange County CA, whom I have a huge crush on. The body is just flawless, beautiful face, looks fantastic in her bikini, really cute nerdy smile. (Maybe I should snap something so you can see my excellent taste ). She also has this aura of sensibility and presence about her which is the sexiest thing of all. But she's like 23, I'm like 50, and in no position to bankroll her right now anyway (cafe girls don't see guys by the hour, you have to do the AGF thing with them, and it's like $6000-$10000/mo, who needs that with all the local pussy around available by the hour) and it's like the obvious thing is maybe you'll get to meet her under more favorable circumstances-in a future life. And why would she have anything to do with me, or anything in common? Let's be real...if I were 25-30 years old and rolled up in something $50K or more, I'd have a shot, but that's not the deal at all, nowhere near it.

Where I'm going with this is that it's a longshot I'd even get her digits, let alone the panties to drop, so why even entertain such nonsense, especially when I can get my pipes thoroughly cleaned for $140-$250 from any number of Korean, Chinese, Thai or VN hotties within a 10 minute drive from the cafe? If you love fucking her, that fine...but this deal is really about the fucking, it always has been, you're just going to get in trouble with that attitude.

I posted this many times on Redbook over the years, I call it the " Paladin mantra": Girls offer a service for a fee, pay the fee, enjoy the service. That's it. Now, you can appreciate her in many ways if she does something for you that other girls don't, but don't confuse it for what it is...her livelihood depends on making you leave the room with a big smile on your face.

What is WG??? but i think you should not otherwise you will lose a lot of money.

WG is a Working Girl, ie  a girl that gets paid for sex.

don't do it.
she will suck you in and get all or most of your money before she is done with you.

I'm gonna trust that you have enough sense to be able to tell whether you're in love with her or if this is just some temporary infatuation. however, think about things in the long run. think about the future. where do you see this going? are you convinced that she'd be willing to give up this line of work in order to be loyal and faithful to you? I assume that's what you would want if you were to pursue a relationship with her. even if she was willing to give up this line of work in order to be with you, do you honestly see a bright future for the both of you? how can you be sure that she won't just play you? and if you were to pursue a relationship with this girl, I can pretty much guarantee that you will have to make big sacrifices, whether it's financial, emotional, etc. etc. would all the sacrifices you'd have to make be worth it to you? there are no guarantees that things would work out between the two of you, even if it seems that way right now. I don't mean to be a wet blanket, but these are just some things you should think about before you decide on your next move. good luck to you.

One of these days I'm gonna write about my ex-gf who was a WG. It's actually quite a touching tale, but this fairy tale of love hasn't quite ended entirely so that thread will be for one day in the future.

I won't tell you not to do anything since all the bros here and there are countless threads on the forums explaining why it's not a good idea.

I will say though, you gotta look at things from the WG's perspective as well. Most of these girls are not in this business for solely themselves. It's a big responsibility taking a WG out of the business, all the people that were depending on her before she quit would now be dependent on you. Are you ready for that kind of responsibility? If you are willing to devote yourself and all your worth to taking care of her and whoever else is attached to her, then go ahead and express your love and take a shot. This is something a lot of people don't even consider in the countless threads about relationships with WGs.

Obviously it would only apply the feeling was mutual towards you otherwise she will probably just eat you up and take you for what your worth then toss you away like other bros have said.

If the feelings aren't mutual read my post on the relationships with WG thread about things you need to watch out for.

Anyway don't waste your time and money nor the girl's time to be in the business and make as much money as she can or meet someone who is willing to take a WG for a partner.

I'm sure the next WG that you bang that gets you infatuated will have you falling in love again in no time.

I'd like to know more of the story on this one too

I've had WG's that i've thought of having more, but not acted upon this yet. A couple of possibilities right now which could very well turn into something more. But more i think abt it, more i think it could be an even more expensive relationship than a normal client/customer one.

sorry to hear that. i think it is too much responsibility to take care not only WG but also her other stuffs. i heard too many sad stories with WGs, so i always suggest don't do that.   

[ Last edited by  haroldla at 9-8-2010 01:55 ]

I think there are factors that can make it work or not work that have to be considered

Will you ask her to give up her job?
Can you support her if she does?

You may have feelings for her and she just see's you as a customer and will use you.

Meet her again and see if she is interested in meeting you in a non pay situation dinner or something and see where it goes.

If you have true feelings for here and not just her service give it a try but remember the old saying

"hope for the best but prepare for the worst"

I know how you feel, I think most bros have at some point felt the way you did, like you're really into a WG, beyond the physical transaction. I know transaction is a cold term but its the reality. You wouldnt have met her unless you were able and willing to pay for her services.

IMO if the feeling of love is so easy, its too good to be true. Don't forget her job is to give you a good time. If you have a good time, she also benefits both in monetary terms and in possible re-visits.

As some of the bros have said, 2 months is too long for you to love someone and not act upon it. If you really did, you wouldve found a way to see her again.

I also agree that a lot of these WGs have troubled past, through no fault of their own, and it might be ultimately hard for us to deal with in the long run.

Obviously, you're the best judge of how you feel, but personally I would not get so involved.

hello madeinsf,

well, its no surprise, you are a "noob!"

i'd have to say forget this broad....

she is a WG....

u can definately find another girl who rocks your world!

all the best, 5

You could let her know but don't be too serious. WGs also like to have sweet talks, you may wish to play this as a game. Occasionally, you may gain "additional service"
However, if you really get yourself involved in such complications, it may ruin your life.

Don't listen to all these fools telling you not to go for it.  For all you know she could be "THE ONE", she who fulfills the rest of your life, AKA your better half.  If I were you, I would go for it, spill out all my emotions and try my best to financially get her out of being a WG so that you could marry her someday.  I'm telling you that there are happy endings out there, love is blind to everything and all that good stuff.  GO FOR IT BRO!  Then come back and prove all these guys that they were wrong all along!  I'm with you in spirit!  May the force be with you!

thanks sexpert for your positive feedback, but i'll think about it. only a week left until i get to see her.