All right, first off this is NOT the fight club; take your discussions over there if you are so inclined.

What I want to know is this: a number of bros have reported tonguing their girls to the big O. How do you do this?

Me, I've never known if its the real O or not. I mean, yes its all wet, there's the moans and shudders but how do I do it right and how do I know I'm doing it right? The other day I was at it for about 10 mins and the girl starts arching her back off the bed and pushing me off her muff with her hands. She would have done it too if not for the fact that her thighs were clamped so hard around my head that my ears still hurt. I assume I was on the right track?

Some bros say they keep it for a good half hour; me, my jaw aches after 10 mins. And how do you guys keep track of time while DATYing? I only know its 10 mins the last time cos I had the music on in the room and best of Journey was on: I started on Separate Ways, had some reaction after Open Arms and Faithfully and finally got clobbered in the head when Don't Stop Believing started.

So guys, spill the beans!

LOL!! fight club? who is that directed at? not me, I hope. DATY is not a hard thing. My technique is just to go in and start on her inner thighs for a bit cause that's also very sensitive spot for women, do that for aobut 1-2 minutes, than afterwards gently kiss her lower stomach while blowing warm air on the pussy, then slowly work your way towards her clitoris in a finger 8 motion. At this point it should be at least 5 minutes and you're bringing her excited. It should be wet by the time you start on her clit. I sometimes find it entertainig to gently nibble on the clit while sticking my tongue in her pussy. I concentrate a lot on the clit, sometimes I'll use my fingers to rub the clit while sucking on the pussy. Other times I'll lick the clit and stick my fingers in the pussy at the same time. Do this for about 15-20 minutes and you'll have the girl arching her back up to the ceiling. Venetiangirls secrets exposed.........$10 dollars please!!!!

haha, i dont know if there should be a prescriptive way to answer this question, as all girls have differing erogenous zones and different responses to different techniques. its also different when going down on a wg as opposed to a SO. when i go down on a wg (rarely) its more to satisfy my hunger for tasting some pussy, and of course hoping she would feel pleasure too. so in that sense, i dont really put my full effort in as also time is usually an issue.

with the SO, i spend a lot more time, similar to how V describes it above, working the other areas long before actually diving in. the key thing is to remember that with women, a cerebral approach often works best. by this i mean that to work her to her O begins long before the clothes even come off. build up that sexual energy at dinner, during the evening, conversation, etc. if this is somewhat achieved, then the big O will come that much easier when u actually get down there.

cerebral? That's the word I was trying to come up with but my mind just went black thinking of that word. knew it started with teh letter c

Relax, I was referring to the other big debate.

But thanks for the tip

Well, for me is simple, like you, I will normally get the aching pain after doing DATY for a continous period of time, also the big squeeze by her thighs, all I did was to lap it up and was told to stop, seem she can't take it anymore. The longest I had done DATY on a GF was about about 50 minutes. Guess I am a giver than a taker.

In addition to what was written above, (v was a bit too technical about the time, the OP will be programming his phone's various alarms to ring at the different time points ), I would emphasize that you occasionally go for the lightest, gentlest possible kisses on her clit.  These light, barely touching kisses would drive her crazy as it would it feel like electricity to her.

Also for some girls when they are close to cumming, I would be fingering her g-spot furiously as I sucked on her clit.

Like Indefine said, every girl has different response when they get the O.  Clamping your head with their thighs is one.  Arching the back is another one.  Full Body shaking is another.  Trying to push you away is another sign - it means that she just had her O and now her clit has become really painfully sensitive and doesnt want to be touched anymore,  you can continue with licking her pussy lips but avoid the clit.  Screaming and moaning can be faked.  The others above are difficult to fake esp if the girl is not an Olympic athlete in control of all her muscles.

After all the foreplay to foreplay, in the end it's circle around the clit hood/clit til she cums.

One thing that I've refined in my technique....
I try NOT to speed up too much when she's getting excited....
Seems like they enjoy it a lot more when you hit the "right speed" and keep it there...

They're not like us... they don't need to speed up near the finish line.

But in the end, each girl is different.... you got to pay attention to all the little signals telling you if you're doing it right or not.

on the clit sucking. Some gentle sucking on the clit has definitely worked in the past for me.

Being in a comfortable position also helps. Ideally she should be in a position where she can get good blood flow to her vag area. If you're getting tired, prop her up with a pillow, or get her to sit on a couch or at the edge of the bed or something.

Grim.

i also recc. changing speed & using one finger, then two fingers...then switch hands also helps the rythm if its done right

I'm pretty good at DATY, but I reckon I'd have a hard time trying to replicate that one!

Seriously though, my input on this topic is "communication"... Only the girl knows what she wants, and the only way to give good DATY is to obey, whether it's following her vocal instructions or her actions. Free-wheeling is good, and you can learn a bit from the experimentation, but don't leave it to guess work the whole time, especially with a new Y! The other thing about getting the girl to open up and guide you is the liberating effect it can give her - you know how quiet some Asian girls can be...

with that handle, you better be goot at DATY

Some women like a bit of DATO slipped in there . I have a large nose so usually on the 69 hood/lips suction in combo with my nose penetrating has worked a few times

VG, I believe Jack's Fight Club reference was because of the altercation that ensued the last time we attempted to determine in here whether DATY was safe or not.  As I'm sure you're all aware we came to the universal consensus that: 1) Not only was DATY completely safe, but 2) DATY actually confers immunity to all STDs and mosquito borne malaria as well.  

But as to Jack's original question: as Grimlock correctly pointed out, you need a pillow under her butt.  It's amazing the difference that makes, but by putting your jaw and her pussy on the same horizontal plane, as opposed to you coming at her from an elevated angle, you completely eliminate the jaw strain.  It's possible to go for hours and hours with the right bolster under her butt.  Without the pillow you have to correct for the angle with your jaw, but with the pillow it's like kissing and you can do that for hours right?

As to technique, most girls I've known have enjoyed variability but the most consistent pleaser move is more of a flatter, up and down tongue motion, as opposed to the high speed butterfly move you see on most porn movies.  The clit likes the slightly raspy surface of the tongue more than the tip.  Give her pearl a breather from time to time, let it get some air or it will go numb.  Suck those labia and make her beg for your finger inside her.

To paraphrase Homer Simpson, "Ah, DATY . . . is there nothing it can't solve?"

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Suction seems to be effective, work on creating suction. Go deep if you can and obviously pay attention to the clit. I am told, the best way to practice is on a peach although I seem to recall an episode of Seinfeld where then mentioned a Mango...

I don't think anyone has mentioned the alphabet technique yet!  I thought everyone who has DATY has at least tried it once!  My experience?  If you're into simple games in the bedroom, instead of going through the letters from A-to-Z, have your girl try to guess the letter/word you just spelled with your tongue on her snatch.  My ex at least seemed to enjoy it!

What I heard was... and this was all from the prostitutes in Nevada (they actually have a DATY class )
don't stick your tongue in it does almost nothing to the nerves
if you want to shove something inside just use your fingers
Just stay on the clit, hum if you can or vibrate your tongue.

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That's really good, thank you for pointing that out as I hadn't seen it before. An excellent cross section of advice by experts in the field. Plus, you cant beat a Lesbian's point of view, after all... if they dont know what feels good what hope have we got?