Here's the scenario: I've seen a girl on the DB and decide to go check her out. After I knock on the door and she answers,it's not the girl I expect (either false pictures or an outdated DB ad I suppose).

Question: Do the girls care if I'm all "That's ok. Thanks." and just decide no? Personally it makes me feel like an ass, but if most girls are fine with it then maybe I'll not give in to my first choice next time.

Bro, you're not the first and you won't be the last.  As long as you don't make a sour face, run for the hills, or say something rude, I think you're fine.  Just be polite, do a little "I'm sorry" gesture, whatever you think is appropriate, walk away, and call back the agent for a switcheroo.  Have done many times.

As long as you don't offend her, just apologise and leave.

In fact, some times, she may change your mind as you are about to leave - and after all, as important as looks are, chemistry is even better! A girl eager to please is a girl worth...you finish that sentence off!

absolutely not. we civilized people tend to feel sorry but what I say is "I will take a look around first", smile, and thank them and leave they take no offense. (they are used to it).

However I find it insulting to watch some Chinese guys just blatantly look at the girl and leave with no words. Some even wave their hands to say "go away". I hate those guys

Agree with Simple and fJA entirely.  Be as nice and polite as you would expect or hope to be treated.  That being said, it is rough on them. The rejection, whether polite or abrupt, stings.  For sure.  I have proceeded with a session just to be nice and it's always a mistake. The girl knows you're not into it and she's not into it and its a double disaster...you need to do what you need to do but go easy on 'em.

I'd say: Da Cow Sai

Which in cantonese is sorry to have disturbed you, which is not that rude.

You have got to be kidding me ... do they care?  Of course they care: they are WOMEN!!!  
Any rejection is the end of the world to them, however thick their skin.  

But that doesn't mean you should walk in, though, does it?  

Apropos I once waited nearly an hour outside the door of a girl I wanted to see ... and the girl next door got more and more mad, as one punter after another knocked on her door, turned, and walked away.  She'd already asked me to move away so I wouldn't scare anyone off ... by the fifth guy she was slamming the door quite hard ...

So far the most diplomatic comment I can think of is to say "sorry I was expecting someone else"
And as fjackass says, if you do it smartly, she will try to persuade you to come in anyway, may offer a lower price or some service incentive, and in those cases that I've accepted I've always had a good time.  Like she has something to prove.  

But don't fake it.  
If you find your first reaction is a heaving stomach, just try not to let your horror show in your eyes as you recoil and back up the corridor ... won't go down well

Yep - I wasn't even thinking of price or service, but I remember one time I tried the 9795 database - I didn't get what I wanted and was instead shown a line up of 6-7 girls. Some of them looked stunning, but I just didn't feel like it and said "sorry" and was about to leave, when one of the girls said "What's wrong. Don't you like me?"

She persuaded me to stay and I had one of my best punts, loads of GFE and more or less everything else I wanted. I saw her again a few times since then.

I used to question this too but early on in my time visiting ladies I had an experience that basically answered the question.

I visited, the girl behind the door was not to my taste so I apologised and was shouted down the hall thankfully behind the next door was something better

My lesson that day was that no matter the job the woman does and no matter how many times they are declined they still have feelings and ego's and those feelings sometimes explode at a customer if refused. In my case I was justified as the girl wasn't at all what I found attractive. I just assumed that the lady had been shown little kindness and me, however polite I tried to be, maybe was just a bit too much.

Advice is, harden yourself against the occaisional abuse but don't expect the girls to be so hard that they don't feel the rejection. So just be as polite as you can and respect the girls.


The other possibility is that the girl likes you and can't cope with the idea that the brief one second love affair across the doorframe might become more?

I am sure many guys are probably just perverts and knocking on doors for cheap thrills with no intention of paying to stay with the girl. This part is probably most annoying for girl than a rejection.

It really pisses me when locals or ABC are rude at walk ups. there's really no need Im convinced they do it out of spite or a need to feel better about them self by putting others down. Come to think of it that how most Chinese think push others down to succeed.Sorry I digress. Yes we are able to take rejection after all its part of the job, and the situation. A punter has every right to look around the cluster and not fell guilty that he
doesn't walk in the first door.Just a simple thank you or even "  very pretty, thank you " as you walk away.Not as the  local Chinese or ABC "WAAA" or other rude hand gestures .

How many seconds does one need to make a judgement call on the girl's appearance?

If it is just a few seconds then going to these buildings pretending to be a religious missionary with pamphlets will get you an opportunity to give the girls a face-saving reason to slam the door in your face as they shouts, 'No, I am not interested!'.  After you have done your rounds of the entire building, then you can go back and tell the girl, you want, through the closed door that you came not to preach as a missionary but to do the missionary with her . With luck, she will feel guilty for slamming door in your face and will open door to let you in.

if you do this can I come to? I have a nun costume.

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Post #6   food for thought ... always two sides to a coin