I was staying in a hotel near the Forbidden City, and feeling kinda bored.  Walked into a European hotel nearby, and went down to the basement where the KTV and Spa were located...the Spa in my hotel had been busted by the LE.  Really nice girl gave me a really good firm massage, and then on the flip, I encouraged some playful touching.  At first, she rejected my advances, and after awhile she relented.  I like this girl alot, so returned on the second night...this took place a year ago.  Then we met on the third night in front of the Silk Market.  We went to her apartment, and after some tea and talking, we were kissing like there was no tomorrow.  Next thing I know we are on her bed, and I am DATY...as she is moaning and saying "I'm going to die!"  It was a great night, and I was wondering where it would lead.  We began to email each other almost every other night, until I had a trip to Hong Kong.  This girl flew from Beijing to Hong Kong, in December (3 months after first meeting her)  and spent 3 nights with me there!  She paid for her own flight, and didn't ask for a thing.  
   We continued to email each other for the next five months until I took a trip to Xian and we met there for three nights in May of this year.  Man! The sex is so good and we are having a great time, but the emotions are getting pretty strong.  I'm mongering less, (used to mongering 2-3 times a month...or more)  but seem to be ok with that.  Still happily  married for over 30 years, but really feeling a connection with this girl...she is 20 years younger than me!  Well I spent another weekend in July with her in Beijing!!  She buys new lingerie for every night that we are together, and the sex continues to be great, but I'm worried that she is going to get hurt in the end.  So here's the kicker.  This last trip, she booked a room in the same hotel as me and my wife!  I'd spend the day with the wife, and sneak out at night and see my girl!  I did this for 3 nights.  What do you guys think about this?  Am I playing with fire?  Should I cut my losses and end it?
    She is a really classy girl, not like WG.  She supports herself with three different jobs.  She seems to have plenty of money...doesn't seem to need mine.  She has never asked me for anything, except my time and friendship.  I just feel like I'm taking chances.  I can tell she isn't that experienced in sex.  The problem is when we go to the airport to say goodby, she is crying like crazy, and can't seem to stop.  I made no promises to her, but to enjoy each other's company.  I'm afraid that the further along this goes, the more attached she will be.  By the way, I'm planning on seeing her again in December!

Bro tjhalfjp,

I personally think you are playing with fire my friend as she is obviously attached to you and all she now needs to do is put one phone call through to your wife. Are you prepared to lose a marriage of 30 years for this girl? If so continue on enjoying your time with her otherwise make a clean break.

Having both your ladies in the same hotel is a brave move.

Just make sure you do your thinking with your main brain and not LB's brain.

Bro, she supports herself with 3 jobs-- do you know which ones?  She has no probs with money??  Why does he have to have 3 jobs?  Are you sure there is no sponsor involved and she is now playing you to be sponsor - maybe she will lose all her 3 jobs and has no money for rent and food and you will be counted upon to help your "damsel in distress"

Holy shite!  You booked her into the same hotel as your wife?  That is frickn insane!  I have done some truly crazy shit in my life, but ya got me beat, Bro.  Kudos!

Anyway...  it seems to me at this point it is not relevant if she is a WG or not.  She's a gal who is clearly making every move possible to be with you - for whatever reasons - love, security, whatever.  And that's cool if you want it.  But remember the phrase "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!".  BE CAREFUL.  Dont let her get to close to your family.  She may be the fatal-attraction type.  So, if you have no intention of moving forward with this gal be a little bit more careful in the future.  (again:  same hotel as your wife!!!!  Aiyaaa!!!!)

In my point of view, it's more convenient that way coz he can just sneak out for a while and be back with his wife in no time.
Excuses like, i'm goin down to the gym or to the pool will be enough.
I dont think that his wife will ever suspect him having an affair with another woman in the same hotel.

u shud tell her exactly wat u expect out of tihis "relationship" esp from the start
if its just friends with benefits, u need to tell her so there are no assumptions
but it seems like shes crossed that barrier if shes crying at the airport
so u need to clear the air before she turns into a monster that can ruin ur marriage and ur life

Playing with fire for sure. This story can be told 1,000 times. Don't be taken, lose your marriage, and screw up your life for one of these girls. These Chinese women are crafty and smart and many have the goal of getting a foreign passport or at least a husband who can support them and their family. Why not both at one shot? These girls also know that the bedroom is a great place for persuasion.

Go back to mongering. It's quick and dirty and it won't F*** up your life.

@wander - Would YOU do it? Bump into her in elevators, breakfast, lobby...

Well, if your aware of what your wifey and the GF are doin, probably that's the best set up to conserve time and satisfy them both.
When wife is asleep, you can sneak out and join your GF in her room and when done with GF, you can just get back to your room without much gap in travel time to invite suspicion.

Maybe she is married and either separated or husband is working away from home.
This is not uncommon in China, in my years in Beijing i had one long term and one short term relationship, very GFE in those circumstances one was husband working away from home and loveless marriage, the other she was working away from home.

She obviously wants company and a lover, perhaps she has more than on lover.

Food for thought
Teltel

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You are crazy bro.  Wait did your gf know about your family being checked into the hotel or did you manage to sneak away and not spend the night with in her room. I'm assuming that you had to wake up next to your wife.

WTF you are ultra reckless. maybe you subconsciously want your marriage to be over, but u just dont want to be the one to pull the trigger?

what would your life be like if you got divorced? better or worse? do u have kids? how long have u been married?

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Normally I would give no opinion, but since you asked.

You only live once, bite the bullet and get rid of the wife.

Thats jumping from frying pan into fire!! BAD ADVICE

First of all, this is not really a report so moving it to another section.

Second, are you still giving her money each time you guys meet up? If not, I'm tempted to say this is almost a civvie thing and not kosher!

Just don't tell us you're in love mate. PLEASE. haha. Enjoy your fun. But know when to call it quits.
But while you're doin' it. Go fuck the shit out of her. hahaha =)~

~UD

not to rain on your parade but chinese women( or just most women) in general are crafty.   I've been down that path myself.  it might start out real in the beginning but if you are married and this drags on it will ALWAYS turn to $$$.  ( or some other ulterior motive, green card?)  

i thought i was risky but same hotel?    i hope you didnt tell her your wife's and your room number.  i'm paranoid like that.

anyways hope it all turns out well for all parties involved if that is possible.

Everyone's got the pessimistic side totally covered here... so on the flip;

If she knows you got a wife, family; she probably just enjoys being with you as a person. I don't see how she could have money as an ulterior motive esp. when she's paying for her own tickets to see you and not even asking you to chip in.

And honestly man... the time that you spent e-mailing each other is probably what did it. Cause out of all that time that she did not see you, she could've been actually getting paid doing some other bloke. As long as you're not a "sponsor", it all seems good to go in my eyes... as long as she knows you got a family, I think the boundaries are already set and understood on both sides. Good luck

I'm opsec obsessed and there's an ocean between play-time and home-life.  But...in the same hotel...wow...just....wow...  

@thhalfjp: you must have a serious poker face, remind me never to put my chips down on the same table as you!

if the girl is ultra emotionally attached and OP tries to break it off with her, she may sabotage his family

Chinese girls are very much incapable of rational thought, especially younger inexperienced girls like the one you are talking about.  But they have one thing in common, security and you are most likely that.