If im lucky and everything goes accordingly i might have an ONS with a civvie....i would like to know any bro have good suggestions like meeting up good cheap hotels...since i want this to happen on neutral grounds...any worrying abt identity and secret video taping cuz i have a steady partner as well....all suggestions welcome

Don't exactly understand what you mean by 'good cheap hotels' but if cost is important then you should go to a love motel that will set you back $200-300 for 2 hours

http://forum.sex141.com/eforum/v ... &extra=page%3D1

First which district do you plan to go?

Once you know that research all the love hotels in that area. Besides learning the prices, you should scout out the places. Some love hotels have discreet side/back entrances that open into alleys between buildings or into long hallways of mixed-use buildings. The Villa Victoria, in Wanchai, is great for me because its back entrance opens into three alleys that lead to 3 different streets, so easy to explain why I am in the alley...taking a shortcut.

do NOT roam anywhere that your partner or her friends frequent ... eg if they are LKF crowd, go somewhere else!

obviously


If she is in the mood for a quickie, a love hotel is good - Villa Victoria in Tin Hau and The Eden in Central are civvie-grade ... I'd put Villa Victoria in the "seasoned civvie" category.  Especially that side-entrance, not going to make her feel loved and special

OR if you really do mean ONS (with emphasis on the N) check out www.booking.com and get a super-cut-price special deal on whatever hotel fits your budget for overnight.

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Thnx for the advice...so much hassle sometimes i wish i was single again....

Maybe it is also important?
Are you planning a romantic GFE night with candles, good music and room service or
more a PSE Night? Then a room with ceiling and wall mirrors would be nice.

nah

that ring is a sex-magnet

protects you from the ones who want to marry you, and makes sure the only ones talking to you are the ones that want a low-commitment romp

A general advice for ONS stuff is have a separate phone for it. If it's difficult to hide it from the SO, HTC has a phone (HTC One) with dual sim card support. Then you just need to hide the extra sim (so it doesn't ring at home).

Other advice is have a routine that explains away loss of time. The best one is a gym membership because it will also explain the fresh shower smell you're going to have on you afterwards.

[ Last edited by  HuangpuGuy at 14-3-2013 00:03 ]

D'artagnan...not sure if the ring makes u a target for blackmailing if push come to shuffle. ...or u have other thoughts?

D'artagnan...not sure if the ring makes u a target for blackmailing if push come to shuffle. ...or u have other thoughts?

Even without the ring this can happen. I've had it attempted to happen a couple of times to me. Once the girl figured out it's just a sex relationship or couple nights thing, she tried to threaten to show up at my work if I stopped seeing her. Luckily I could smell the crazy on that one pretty early on and made sure every piece of information about me was harmless or fake. I've heard similar stories from nearly all my foreigner friends. The ring isn't necessary to elicit the behavior...she just has to like you a lot or dislike you a lot.

Huangpu beat me to the draw ...

You wouldn't be in this game without a level of comfort with risk, and strategies for managing risks, right???  

Not even 'good behaviour' i.e. staying faithful and committed to a single partner, is protection from having to handle a crazie

I've been single now for over a year and have not worn my ring for 20 years, do you recommend me dusting it of and wearing it
to attract more girls (its a strange world)

I think an interesting idea would be to A/B test the strategy. Try with and without while being cognoscente of the attention you get. Here's a link: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A/B_testing

Thnks for the advice ok put it this way anyone had ons with married wife with similar background as in kids and end up being fucked up afterwards....maybe this shud be a poll....just want to hear some stats i believe....

I've done married girls before. They're the best. They respect the discretion just as much as you do. Can't promise anything, but in my experience they're the best. No issues. Awesome sex. No bullshit. If you want, it's easy to turn them into a regular thing. It can be a good sexual relationship.

"friends with benefit" can backfire. I had known a friend, good friend for 6-7 years now. Last week I popped the question "do you want to come back to my room" (I'm married and she's single and she knows i'm married). totally backfired. Now she won't speak to me.... so if you go that ONS avenue, avoid friends.

just for balance, I've had the opposite ... was friends for a while, and that was all I expected

OK I did push the envelope, I kissed her, but didn't make a pass

next thing is an SMS saying "do you want to have sex w/ me?"

Here's my personal view on stuff like that...

Girls don't want to be asked questions like this. It forces them to consider the situation in the foreground of their mind. For her to say yes, she must internally concede to being a slut and to willingly begin something as the 3rd woman. Unless she was already stalking you, her saying yes is unlikely even if a part of her wanted to do it (unless she actually is a slut).

If she's a good friend then getting her to your room would be easy without explicitly saying that. She's probably already been at your place several times for friendly reasons. Once there, you just try something. But never ask permission, just try.

Of course if the girl has never given you any flirtatious behavior, then best to avoid this altogether. Sometimes you can't really know for sure though. Even if the girl has flirted with you, she might view you as the safe fun guy she can flirt with (I've met a couple of these). If there is doubt, use alcohol. I don't mean get her wasted drunk. I just mean enough that if she was on the fence, she'll fall on the side you're looking for. And if she rejects you, you can just apologize and say "wow...i've had too many...so sorry".

only if I read this 1 week ago I would probably have secured a nice convenient fek buddy + not loosing a friend.
good advise, will play better next...