Subject: mobile phone -- on or off?
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Post at 13-11-2012 23:46  Profile P.M. 
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mobile phone -- on or off?

Do you keep it on and pretend not to hear it? or keep it off and pretend you forgot to turn it on?

I'm primarily addressing the bros with SOs.

God forbid, do you actually answer it while you're in the room???

I have a fairly bad track record of hearing the phone any time I'm out walking around, so I keep it on and call back later once i "notice" i missed a call. But I can't help wondering if there isn't a better solution, or at least if i should vary my approach somewhat.
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Reply #1 Buford's post

Ahhh..., this is part of training the SO.  Do NOT jump everytime she calls.  You are busy.  You are working, in a meeting, on the phone, with a client, with your boss, whatever.  Train her that your schedule and calender is variable, and that she doesnt need to know the minute-by-minute details.

I have taken this approach to the limit:  even booking fake business--trips when I wanted to pull an overnighter.  Just make sure your "variableness" fits within the norms she is used to.  So if you jump to answer her call, or always call back within minutes, then you are setting expectations that are unacceptably high and impossibe to maintain for us active mongerers.

PS:  I NEVER call back or answer when a gal is in the room.  She doesnt need to hear my conversation with my SO, and my SO sure doesnt need to hear an accidental squeek or laugh from a WG!  Too risky..

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Only turn off if you regularly turn off, as you have limited times to use this excuse.  Also when you turn off the calls usually goes directly to voice mail.  Like the practice of not always answering and using excuse you did not hear or see the call.
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Both good answers! I tend to leave it on on vibrator (dont want to have the ringtone of my SO in the middle of a session, offputing!!! ). Sometimes I dont call back or send 30mn later a message saying im still busy and I'll call her back. Not raising expectations is the most important!
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I suppose you could forget to take it with you if your ducking away from work or leave it on the dresser at home if you need to get away on a weekend day. "Sorry honey I must be getting absent minded in my old age".
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Reply #5 atomic3d's post

Thanks to everyone for the replies. Expectations are not high but I'll have to work on lowering them further.
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Agree with the others here.. you really need to set her expectations so you are not doing anything out of the ordinary... It may take months or years for her to buy it.. you can't just all of a sudden go from picking up her call after the 1st ring to not replying her calls until 3 hours later... You really need to work on it to into your habit..
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Post at 15-11-2012 13:55  Profile P.M. 
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I got my pocket picked about a month back, cost me about 250rmb+, since then I have gotten into the habit of leaving my quite expensive iphone at home (unless I know I am going to be needing it) and just carry my much cheaper itouch for music, podcasts, translation app, etc. If you have wifi, it's also good for email and messages, but no voice, no loud and persistant phone calls.

Sometimes less is more.
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Post at 23-11-2012 23:39  Profile P.M. 
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Hi Guys,

As this topic is about SO's....you all indulge in BBBJ, BBJCIM and DATY with your WG's?

Is this safe, especially in China?

Thanks
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Post at 24-11-2012 12:45  Profile P.M. 
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Agree with most of the comments here the trick is setting in your SO's mind the default, whatever it is, i.e. not getting home until 9.30 every evening, not picking up the phone on the first ring, Certain times of day not even answering the phone. In my case I do a lot of business with folks in the UK and so basically from 5 PM to 10 PM "I am not contactable by telephone Because I am too busy talking on the phone to clients" is the message she has been trained on. Naturally some of this time is spent with P4P.

keep on mongering

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edge   30-11-2012 10:39  Acceptance  +1   I was about to write the exact same thing!!!!
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Reply #10 gwailoplayer's post

In France, cinq a sept (5 to 7) is used as a euphemism for a tryst with the mistress, as that is the time after work when Frenchmen enjoy their happy hour.
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Reply #11 Mister's post

What I really need (I've decided) is an app that will drain the battery on my phone. Put the phone on mute, check your missed calls after, then drain the battery if necessary. Perfect excuse. If it doesn't exist, someone should invent it.
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QUOTE:
Originally posted by Buford at 25-11-2012 21:54
an app that will drain the battery on my phone ...

that's easy:  use a GPS navigation app

Sygic is great, but anything that uses GPS continuously and keeps the screen on will do the trick

Will drain what's left in your battery surprisingly quickly!




Hear Ye!  The Mayor has spoken!
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Reply #1 Buford's post

I usually put it on silent and call back the first chance. I'm in and out within an hour. I guess it's the expectation you set between you and SO. If it's during the work day easy to say you could not take the call.
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