Reply #1 Kennichi's post
I have never been to Hk but to me the problem does not necessarily seem
Hk specific.
Maybe the problem is you, more specifically, either a self imposed limitation, or perhaps a submissive-guy vibe you subconsciously put out, or both.
Are you permitting yourself enough time to go out and find multiple candidate girlfriends? Because if you only have time to find one, then you tend to become needy with the one that you found, and that neediness can be repulsive in a way to a potential girlfriend.
Next make sure you have and display enough energy. If possible, Don’t spend all of your time at day job work or thinking about day job work. Working out at a gym can make you at least look more energetic. Stand and walk with a straight back. Take up more space while sitting down. In parties keep on the move and stay mentally alert, avoiding alcohol if necessary.
Maybe you are meeting the wrong girls in the wrong circles for the type of relationship that you want. what are your solid hobbies? For example, Do you like cooking? Hiking? Small dogs? Big dogs? Robot dogs?
After identifying your non-work interests, get involved in the hobby meetups cia online groups. Find suitable girlfriend candidates in those groups.
Identify your limits. How many dates before a first kiss? First fuck? Make hard limits and stick to them. At the same time, invest in meeting multiple girls at the same time. This requires more time and energy but you need to do it. If it sounds like a slog, make a game out of it to trick your mind into doing it with some passion (time and energy).
Be alert. Good candidates are soon snapped up by alert guys. You want to be one of those alert guys.
Check out university student hang-out places (physical and online). You have an advantage that guy students do not: a day job that gives you some disposable income. Use your advantages strategically (don’t get led on for too long).
The Hk girl sounds as if she has a secret sd or chad, and she was using you to as a potential respectable suitor to take the pressure off that her mother had been applying to her to find a respectable suitor. She can’t introduce her sd or chad to her mother because he would not be considered suitable to the mother. In fact, he would bring shame to her family. Signs of this might include lack of commitment translated into inability to schedule time with you, surreptitious phone calls, multiple cell phones, retail therapy, taste for expensive clothes and accessories, wearing expensive jewelry, disregard for need to save money, apparent lack of sex drive, weird out of place behavior such as sudden preferences for odd music and movies, and so on.
Anyway you might need to re invent yourself. That takes some effort, so make sure you give it an honest shot before giving up on the notion. | |
