Dating (not paid sex question)
I'm asking here because well quite frankly there's very few people I can ask who aren't massively biased in some way. Maybe you're all biased but advice is as worth as much as you pay for it. (My parents will say put a ring on it! Co-workers all Chinese will say put a ring on it).
Anyway.
After fucking upteen WG in HK in 2008.
Returning to the UK I did pretty well there. It did wonders for my confidence. I had a few short term relationships. I left the UK in 2018. But HK, work, protests, covid meant I did very little anything other than go to work, come home for years. I did attract some interest in Guangzhou but the border closures killed that.
Anyway I got introduced to somebody MUCH younger than me end of November 2022. She came over to HK in 2011. We've been 'dating' though to me a UK born Chinese it feels like simply hanging out.
Hanging out means going to expensive restaurants and being left with the bill every time except once when they didn't take my cards.
As above I was born in the western world. I feel like I'm simply being used.
The only thing that has happened is I met her mother. She's 28 and lives at home with her mother.
No holding hands, not even a hug or a kiss or anything. I moved in for a hug and she flopped and kept her arms by her sides.
I go eat and get escorted to the MTR station and then silence until the next time she wants to eat somewhere expensive.
Messages are infrequent except for let's go to restaurant X for whatever.
It's Valentines day on Tuesday and I'm thinking of breaking up with her. What's the problem? I'm not getting any younger and dating here is incredibly dry, I haven't seen anybody since 2018.
So what does everybody think?
Is this the nature of HK dating? How slow it is?
I got suckered in 2015 with a Shanghai woman (in the UK) after 5 months nothing, not even any physical contact. There was always some excuse, but we were only seeing each other once every 2 weeks as I was incredibly busy. | |
