Definitely outline the agreement in advance, as well as the commitment. IF you have a great time and she sticks to the agreement(no attachment, no drama), then giving extra is always a nice surprise. It is worth gold to you in the long run.
Things to consider...
1) Did you have to pay for a room somewhere? No? Give her some of that savings.
2) Was she discreet (assuming you wanted her to be)? Yes? That is worth gold, so consider that
3) How often will you get to meet? What would that have cost you in one-offs? Take care of her
4) Consider what you would spend on a date for a few hours. (food, activities, transport)... Let her reap the benefit, it will still probably be cheaper
Also, I think the most important,
5) Also, unless she is the one that mentions hours etc... you might find she feels even better if its not framed as a $$ per Hour situation. For someone in her shoes that may be considering this to take care of family or things she needs, it could be a bit de-humanizing. Maybe just consider how many times you would meet her a month and then offer her a monthly allowance to spend her days off with you. If she isn't looking to make a career out of this, and she really is doing it cause she feels comfortable with you and thinks it might help her situation out, then this may help her to feel better about herself in the long-run and also may make things a lot more intimate with you both (assuming you want that). If you go that route, consider that if she was working part-time at 100 an hour (average rate in HKG for cleaning PT), then if you are taking her entire day off x 4-5 a month, you might consider that as her allowance, this could be anywhere from half to equal her monthly salary as a DH. If you can afford to swing it, then you would be making a huge difference for her (assuming she was not planning to do this as a side hustle).
Bonus - remember her bday and holidays... the little touches will go a long way.
Then again, if you are just hoping to meet up with her for 2-3 hours on her days off here and there, 500 is still a bargain. Ask her if she is ok with it and if things are really good, then give her extra. Tell her it was so great you wanted her to have a bit more, hopefully it will keep things great.
Damn I talk too much.
EDIT: considering how old this post is, I hope this advice helps anyone in a similar situation!
[ Last edited by CuriousGeorgeHK at 30-11-2021 00:15 ] | |
