Sex isn't a straightforward thing, and EVERYone has problems with it of one kind or another. We'd hardly be human if we didn't!
Erection/orgasm issues are common with men. Women too except for the erection part. Some women have a devil of a time getting over the nut. And for many of them, feeling relaxed and comfortable is important. Communication as well--and women often communicate non-verbally. For them it's a more nuanced situation...I guess, because I'm male.
You should let us know if you're circumsized or not, as that can make a difference. Definitely take a vacation from the porno. Porn is like a marketing campaign for sex. It's PR spin. And masturbating to it, while fun, can play with a man's brain: you're always in control with that remote control, skip forward to your favorite part, and without even noticing it you might be using the "Death Grip"...just give it a rest. Avoid orgasms for awhile. Let your subconscious calm down.
WGs want you to get off, compensate, leave, then return later. There's a time factor--especially in Hong Kong. But they're still women. You can play with them. And this is something I've found women like: playing, exploring, light stroking. They dig it. It's not all about the "mighty battering ram"...which is what a lot of porn focuses on. Take the attention off your penis if you can--don't worry, they'll get to it later!
It's easier to say than do, but if you try to shift the focus more towards the experience, it will help. Yes: your dick and your orgasm are important. That'll happen. But try to enjoy the other things that are going on. Hopefully you're with someone who gets it (repeat visits are a plus).
It's not an exact science. The idea is to expand your sensual horizons and, in the process, help you to relax. If you're mid-30s and reasonably fit, things should improve. Don't expect instant results, but stick with it.
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