I hate to be the asshole with the cold bucket of reality, but it has to be said that while every good romance requires good sex, no good romance can survive alone on good sex.
If you don't have chemistry, and I mean real chemistry, then you're not going to last past a year or two.
The litmus test is this: if your SO were a man, or a lesbian, would you still enjoy spending time with them?
Answer that question honestly, think about the other platonic relationships in your life and see if any of them resemble your SO. If none do, then you have your answer.
I lived for a while in Tokyo and got to meet a lot of expats. Most were married to Japanese women, and to a man, none were in a happy marriage. They all complained about the same things: their wives have a completely different set of values, they care about different things, and they're basically strangers living under the same roof tied together because neither have anywhere else to go at their age. Fortunately, Chinese culture isn't quite as alien (relative to Western culture) as Japanese culture is, but there's still a HUGE gap.
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