If your definition of "happy" marriage means that you have an active sex life with your spouse, then, of course, if you get caught punting, you're a dead man. You have no excuse.
Getting caught punting when your spouse refuses to have sex with you is a completely different ball game. As a human being, you have a right to have your physical needs met, and if your spouse is refusing to do anything with you, the situation is not entirely your fault. There is blame to go around everywhere. She would be a complete fool to think that you will just sit there and not have sex for the rest of your life because you're married and she doesn't want to do it with you. It's actually ridiculous of her to think this way.
A lot of times, this type of scenario opens up a couple to having tough conversations which both of them have been avoiding, so it can be a good thing. It doesn't have to spell the end of the marriage, although I would presume divorce happens more often than not.
Again - disclaimer - This is not my personal situation. I'm just older and have a lot of guy friends and we talk about this stuff. | |
