Depends on your marriage. A lot of guys have been married a long time and have dead bedrooms, by mutual agreement (unspoken or otherwise). After 20+ years, a lot of people don't get any enjoyment out of it (both guys and girls). Kind of like watching the same movie over, and over, and over. I would say a lot of guys don't punt in the beginning of their marriages because they are happy with their sex life. and then wind up punting later in life because either they or their spouse no longer want to do it.
Think there's a world of difference between punting and having a mistress. That's a bit more complicated.
As far as why you get married, kids is the obvious reason. Later in life, if you don't have kids, it can be very lonely, particularly if your spouse passes away first. Plus kids are awesome if you have good ones. Being married isn't required to have kids, but I don't think you could ever say it's better to have kids without a wife, all things being equal, especially for the kids.
So, if you have kids and don't want to divorce and see them once every other weekend, but aren't getting sex at home, I have a hard time judging you for going for a punt every once in a while. | |