Hits close to home as well.
A WG I had a nice relationship with asked me to help pay her mortgage. I did give her 2k without really asking anything in return, except to see her again.
We kept in touch and I went to see her in Shenzhen when she was around. She got us drinks, ordered food in the bar for us, paid for the hotel, total she must have spent almost 1k hkd with me that night without asking anything in return, and we spent the night and next morning together. In the end I did pay her back for most of the money she spent on me because I knew it was out of her budget.
Like someone said, I think some are really bad at financial planning, don't want or can't hold a 'real' job, but still want to enjoy life. And being a WG is a way to finance that lifestyle.
Whether they genuinely care about you or are just after your money is a tricky situation to entangle, and I havent figured it out either.
In my case, a couple days later she asked me to help pay her rent. I reluctantly agreed to contribute, but she got somewhat offended, either by my reluctance, or because i tried to tell her to be more careful with her money (she has a rent, a mortgage, and goes out out every other night because she still 'wants to live'). I don't judge, but I'm not into being a sugar daddy.
We don't speak that much anymore. Will still catch her next time she's around.
My advice would be, don't give more than what you are willing to lose. That way, if you get something in return, good for you, you can say it was it was pay for play as it used to, and if you don't, then at least you won't regret what you have given her. | |
