Reply #1 SlenderGent's post
Don't be too paranoid but be wary / aware of your drinks and bottles are the safest if you are concerned - same as any city in the world. No need to ask them to open in front of you and the layout of most of the Wan Chai bars you will see them do it.
Same rules apply as any mongering spot in the world if you are solo - don't leave unattended drinks if you go to the bathroom or for a smoke. Just finish your drink or take it with you and take the risk of losing your spot - not a biggie.
If also depends on the bar. In my opinion, this is my list of safest to less safe - other bros may disagree and the top ones are the priciest. My top 3 I actually have no problem using a credit cad there but others I will only use cash
Hong Kong Cafe
Escape
Amazonia
Makati
Neptunes 3
Players
Sparks
These are the proper girl bars. Curtain bars are a different thing and I only go to Dragon but its rare and generally only to introduce HK newbies to the concept.
On the etiquette of Lady Drinks (LDs), you always have the right to politely refuse and my above list is also in order, IMHO, from least pushy girls to most pushy girls. If a girl in any of the bars just comes over, with or without prior eye contact, and immediately asks for a drink they may be drink whores (girls who just want to earn on their drink tips and have no intention of going for a punt unless you significantly overpay) so I just politely say "Maybe later". If they leave immediately they are drink whores.
If they stop and chat, there is more chance they are looking for an actual punter. If you get on and have a decent chat (say 10/15 mins), then you could offer a drink which is not a commitment from you to take them for ST/LT. At this point, I also say "Ok, 1 drink". If not a decent chat or she's too pushy, then I won't offer a drink and just politely say "it was nice to meet you and offer my hand to shake - they generally get the hint.
If you decide that you want to do a punt with her, discuss the details during the 1st drink and then its up to you whether you want to drink more or not. Personally, if I have decided to punt with her, I will do a 2nd drink to build the chemistry before leaving. On occasion, if they were good sport/company and have agreed a LT, I have taken them on a bit of a pub crawl but make it clear that in the other bars it is normal drinks.
If you decide not to punt with her after 1 drink it's no biggie. If you want to stay in the same bar, as above, I just politely say "it was nice to meet you and offer my hand to shake. If I'm leaving the bar, I use pretty much the same tactic but throw in a "might see you later" to keep the investment of the LD in place on the chance I come back and decide to give her a go.
These are my opinions and SOPs but work for me.
In general, being polite and treating them with respect avoids any awkwardness whether you buy a drink or not.
Looking forward to your reports.
Au
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