If I could go back in time to my younger self, I would :
a) go back to a date just days after my college graduation,
b) tell myself to detox myself of all the bullshit about what 'modern' women want in their men, ie a guy who knows his feminist self and can respect those 'strong' women.
c) then go model my behavior after my father and guys of his generation, ie 'old-fashion', male chauvinistic, sticking to firm opinions (even if it goes against popular thought), to have enough (not the excessive type that staying married is impossible) ambition to be in order to raise a good, happy family, etc.
Why do the above?
1) Wasted years trying to figure out to get a great girl. I wish someone told me earlier instead having had to figure it out on my own via lots of trial and error.
2) Most 'modern' women who think they are 'strong' are really not at all what they like to think of themselves. They themselves are so confused/conflicted of what they really want in a guy and it really drives guys frustrated in trying to figure how he can reach those constantly moving goalposts?
3) For the guys who grew up with both parents who were never divorced, consider ourselves lucky that there is a pre-existing model for us to emulate in looking for gf/SO. If your parents got divorced, then try to find an older guy who was never divorced to be your friend and someone you can emulate.
Sure the 'old-fashion' ways can be very chauvinistic (it was an uncomfortable feeling at first but got over it) but damn there are still a lot of girls who like that model and they are the ones who tend not to be confused/conflicted in the types of guys they want to be in relationship. It is really amazing clarity of what you are heading into. After I changed my behavior to this 'old-fashion' one, I started attracting many really good girls besides the usual bad, flaky girls.
PS: Adopting the 'Pick-up Artist' ways is not the way to go as it will eventually backfire and karma will catch up with you unless you leave the region for a new region and new identity. | |
