Originally posted by mchk at 14-9-2017 17:18
Also, FYI I have some wife/GF friends and they have admitted they don't care so much when their SO's get a happy ending. As long as it doesn't become a bad habit, or that their man is not falling for the therapist. **NOTE not all, I said SOME!**
Slightly off topic though
Or as my Asian mate's Asian wife phrases it "We are in Asia, girls and sex are easy to come by but we only have a problem if you STOP paying for it....." ;-)
To confirm mchk's point, this is not all women and I'm not sure if a Western SO would have the same opinion.
One of my friends back in Europe did a full disclosure after proposing to his wife using the line of "I was in the army so it was the only way to fulfil the physical need" She accepted it though never forgot it and was always suspicious. Naturally he kept on punting on business trips and after getting busted twice because she as she was always suspicious would check receipts, monitor withdrawals etc and they split multiple times over it. I think it is an individual decision on full disclosure though does carry risks in a relationship.
Another note of caution is when you punt with your mates who the SO knows. Another mate of a mate got busted by his wife after a boys weekend away, did a full historical disclosure without mentioning his mates and the 1st thing she did was call all the other wives with the "well if he has been doing it, yours must be as well." Luckily this wife didn't know me or mine so I escaped but it caused hell among them. |
