Originally posted by ggherkin at 11-12-2013 04:26
the girl felt I was the type who would be unfaithful to my wife. I never came on to her at all, yet somehow, "the charm" came across too strong.
Since then, I've been more cautious in these situations. But being charming is fun, so it's hard!
If the girl comments on it, the response I use is to say something to the effect of "You've been meeting the wrong kind of guys," or "there's just something about you." But yes, most women are not used to focused attention. They like it, but then worry that you do that for everyone. If they don't accept my explaination then they label me a "player," and it takes a long time to break that perception.
One thing I like to do is when at dinner or in a crowded place talking, maintain eye contact and don't glance at other women walking by. You can still see them in your periphery, but women notice if you look away while talking to them.
Also, smile at randome times, and when they ask "what?" tell them you are happy. They hopefully will say they are happy too, and then you're golden. |
