I think you are asking a question similar to "Which is better, an apple or an orange". The reality is, some days you feel like eating an apple, other days you feel like eating an orange. There is no "better" or "worse" choice. It's what you feel like that day.
There are consequences to remaining monogamous, and consequences to not doing so. But it is very hard to say which are better or worse.
One thing a good friend said to me about mongering: The desire to monger comes in waves. It's not constant. When that desire hits, it's hard to resist. Other times, easy to resist.
Final thought: For many, the best sex they ever have is with their own wives, just not frequent enough, so they monger.
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