An Update on maintaining a fuckbuddy
So an update on "maintaining" a pure fuck-buddy relationship. I've said before that these relationships are inherently unstable - one member always wants more out of it than the other.
I've seen Judy weekly since December. She's a weird, annoying, oddball Chinese gal - but with a great ass and is damn fun in bed (I'll explain why later). But I truly cannot stand her company once sex is done. So I kick her out shortly thereafter.
She's always wanted more - a "real" relationship, and I have done and said everything with total, brutal honesty to let her know this won't EVER happen: "No dinner, I only want to fuck you..." or "I am NOT your boyfriend, you are not my girlfriend, just a sextoy, okay?" etc. Etc. I HAD to be so brutal just to keep things on that "no-strings" page.
It still didn't work. She shows up at my door one nite last week, unannounced! Calling me, hounding me to take her out. Grrrrr... I sent her way without screwing her. (can't set a precedent that this shit is okay).
I SMS her later (I never call her). "Look Judy, you are a sweet woman, but I don't want a girlfriend, ANY girlfriend! I like fucking you... That's it. And I know you like fucking me too. But if you can't handle this kind of relationship than we must quit right now. I respect you and your choices - I will wish you all the best and much joy if this is your choice. But you NEED to respect my choices as well. Or I can't see you again."
So... She replies saying "Okay, we must say goodbye then.. Thx for your honesty -- this is new territory for me. I am happy I met you, such good sex, but I need more. Goodbye.".
"Okay" I reply, "Bye babe, thanks and much luck and joy to you".
Ahhh, but I doubted it was actually over. Hehe.
This morning she sms's again. "Dammit, you are so damn good in bed, and I am soo horny!".
I smile... And reply, "You see? This is not a bad deal, right? Come over now."
She does. I barely say 5 words to her when she enters my room - I just stripped her bare, plunged my tongue into her pussy, and then fucked her senseless for an hour. (And cummed all over her face and tits and mouth). Oh -- don't think this was a lack of respect on my part -- she LOVES it.
I mentioned I absolutely enjoy fucking her.. here's why:
It's a bit of a new situation. She is a "good girl"; always has been. Married young for quite a while, recently divorced, and has slept with no more than 3 or so guys in her entire life. And always very primly, it seems. Missionary, finish, sleep. But she totally wants me to treat her like a complete slut! It took a few times together to realize it, but it became clear that the nastier I spoke and acted the more she got off. She would open the door, I would grab her, lift her skirt, pull her panties down, bend her over the table and bang her right there before a word was spoken --- and her knees would go weak in orgasm as it happens. Or I would pull out and slide my dick in her mouth as I blew my load and say "suck me till I explode down your throat" or something like that. And she would.
She would be completely submissive to ANYTHING I wanted to do -- the sluttier the better. Clearly, she had never acted this way before, and she loved it (perhaps shamefully or reluctantly). But not 5 minutes would pass after my orgasm when she would be groping and sucking to get me going again. And telling me, barely above a whisper, what she wanted me to do to her. I could understand maybe half of what she said as it was said so quietly and often in chinese.., but I got the jist --- "baby... please use my body again, fuck me crazy and cum all over me...". Stuff like that...
So.., as I said earlier, sex with her is truly damn good!
Anyway... let's get back to today.
Finally, we finish this morning and, as usual, I just want her to get the hell out. But, once again, she is whiny and wants to stay. Grrrrrr. Anyway, I kick her out. It was difficult and un-fun... I dont like being insensitive to women (especially one willing to let me have my way with her) but I really dont like talking to her.
Anyway as of now, I still have her as a fuckbuddy. We'll see for how long. The conversations are getting brutal enough that I cant see it lasting much longer. We'll see.
[ Last edited by wander at 3-3-2013 09:32 ] | |
