I have also seen misspumpkin's ads on CL and have been interested, admittedly more in who she is as a person than what she offers.
Her postings are very unusual in several ways
- Her postings are always in LARGE CAPS, such as "LOVE PUMPKIN LOVE - w4m - 22".
- She includes many many high res pictures in each posting.
- It seems she posts very frequently on CL.
I've not contacted her before and have not heard from her until today on this forum. Admittedly I am intrigued.
Based on her responses and what I see on CL, I just wanted to make two points.
1. Show Respect, Get Respect
I agree with this whole heartedly. And there are many people who disrespect others, let alone, women, let alone prostitutes. I think a good part of this has to do with insecurity in men, manifesting in either possessiveness, or in rejection and disrespect of 'promiscuous' women. I sense misspumpkin's intense dislike for many kinds of men, in particular those of certain ethnicities, originated in some verbal or physical disrespect from these men. It could have been her dad, her clients.
I would venture to guess it was her family that first made her feel rejected and disrespected. Perhaps it was her strong natural sex drive, frowned upon in conservative cultures. She most likely also has a unique and unusual personality, that clashed with local accepted norms. And rejection of that from her family and others brought much anger and hurt to her. It made her turn to people and cultures that she perceived as more accepting of her. Hence the affinity towards westerners. And the hatred towards her own race.
Whoever planted the seeds of hate in her must have made a huge impact on her psyche. And the seed only grows as she encounters more and more instances of disrespect.
The tattoos, the feisty combative attitude all became defense mechanisms and ways to protect herself. The insults on 'small wangs and minds' are retaliation for rejection by her own culture, as well as a coping mechanism. Combined with her strong sex drive and hatred for her own race, she came to worship large penises. I know that sounds funny, but this is spoken from me without judgement or humor. I think this is how her psyche developed.
But her anger towards her culture and her family I think clouds her objective view. In truth, every culture and person has those that respect others and those that don't. Many many western men treat women as simply objects in HK because of the baggage and insecurity many women have. They can take advantage of these and fuck and dump them, with no moral hesitation or regard for the woman's feelings. Politeness and smiles simply give a false illusion of respect. If she can let go of her own anger towards her family or whoever it was that instilled those seeds of anger in her, then she would be able to accept each person for themselves andnot judge them as a culture. By unknowingly letting her hate and hurt affect her psyche, she has turned into the kind of person she despises the most - one that judges others, and one that insults others. She is still young though, and I think there is time to change.
2. Doing it for sex or for money
In my view, the motivation for prostitution doesn't make it more or less respectable. Whether you do it more for the sex or more for the money, its simply a choice.
If you do it for the sex, that's fine. We cannot control our sex drives, not naturally anyways.
If you do it for the money, that's also fine, as long as you do it honestly. By honestly, I mean treating the client with respect, giving him/her the service that he/she paid for. The truth is many, many prostitutes that I have met do it to feed their families and kids. Many are divorced and are left to put their kids through school. They've been hurt by previous relationships and choose to become independent. Unfortunately, not everyone is lucky and blessed with good education, abilities, or a silver spoon. That's the unfortunate fact of life. Everything requires money in this world and the less fortunate turn to what society perceives as less moral ways to earn money. But I've met enough dishonest salespeople, accountants and lawyers to know what morals really are - to conduct yourself honestly. And some prostitutes are the most moral, upstanding people I have ever met. Of course some are also dishonest and calculating. But that's because of who they are, not what they do. It's far easier to attack a person by what they do rather than taking the time to discern the subtle differences.
Sorry for the long posting. Misspumpkin and the discussions here inspired me to write this. I just feel that if there was true understanding, there would be less arguments between members and service providers. Also if people understood themselves more, we can live more happily with greater acceptance for ourselves and others and can let go of our hate and anger.
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