Originally posted by simple_needs at 8/21/12 01:18 PM
Now as I try and figure out why the hell one can do a 180 like that to her husband, I was thinking about what the fuck I did to prompt all this, because a message with a WG is not enough reason to go ape-shit on someone. As I've been thinking for several days now, I was a very removed husband for the past 20 months. I'm pretty convinced that she was not feeling loved.
C'mon dude, you can't seriously be asking for sympathy here. I see WGs behind my gf's (and ex-girlfriends') back and I know full well that every time I do so I'm an asshole. If a time ever comes where I get caught then I'll admit to it 100%. I know that I'm playing with fire and I take full responsibility for my own actions. No one ever held a gun to my head and demanded that I go put my stiff cock in a WG's sweet pussy. This is the path I choose each time.
You can't honestly say that you don't understand where your wife is coming from. You betrayed her trust. Again, this is the chance us guys who have SOs take each and every time we go see a WG and you got caught. And then you even tried to lie about it by pinning the blame on an anonymous friend. Think about it from your wife's perspective. You've been lying about something pretty huge so what's there to stop you from lying to her again in the future? She doesn't trust you and in a relationship -- any relationship -- trust is the most important thing. Trust is difficult to earn and once lost may never be had again. Your wife wanted to go to Macau and confront the WG because she initially blamed the WG for the problem. But at the ferry terminal she understood that it was actually you who was the active one in creating this situation.
I hope you two work it out, but you have to be honest with yourself about the situation. You can't blame your wife for anything. If you found out that your wife had cheated on you with a young stud who is everything that you're not then how would you feel? The demands for cash and jewelery is her wanting to punish you for betraying her. She doesn't really care about the money, she just wants you to suffer as much as possible like how you made her suffer.
You also recognize that you weren't a great husband by not being there with her. Did you only realize this now or did you always know? Either way that's really bad. If it's the former then it took a life altering situation for you to realize this meaning that you never thought about your wife. If it's the latter then in all this time you never did anything to change the situation and now it's too late.
Sorry, but the truth hurts.
Side observations:
- Unlike one of the posters above, I don't believe that your wife ever cheated on you or is looking to take all your money (other than for revenge). The fact that your wife wanted to confront the WG in Macau is a classic example of a person trying to put the blame on the other party because your wife until then still had a bit of trust in you. If your wife had anything to hide herself she wouldn't have gone that far.
- Your excuse for having naked pics on your phone was dumb. In this age even 14-year-old kids have cell phones. Why would someone else use your phone to take naked photos of girls at a sauna? Usually when a person takes naked photos they want to keep it for themselves. Have you ever been in a scenario where your friends asked to use your phone like that?
- The fact that your wife went through your iPhone's browsing history implies that she really didn't trust you anymore.
- Studies on divorce in America have shown that women purposely drag out divorce proceedings as long as possible in order to make the man suffer as much as possible. This extends the financial hardship on both parties (the only party that wins are the lawyers) due to lawyer and court fees. This falls in line with your wife wanting to get as much money from you as possible -- it's to make you suffer.
[ Last edited by Freelancer at 23-8-2012 14:34 ] |
