There's a ton of great advice here - very balanced!!
Some observations ...
only you can decide what's right for you, my suggestion is to think it through, and then make your choice. If in the future you can say "yes, given what I knew at the time, I would have made the same choice" you're going to avoid the risk of getting depressed or embarrassed about your choice afterwards.
First sex is one of those things that I believe is 90% opportunity and 10% idealistic.
Originally posted by WantThisForever at 31-7-2012 21:37
I'm a 19 year old college student who is a virgin.
you and half the world mate. Nothing to be embarrassed or shy about.
Yes, some guys (and a lot of girls) started way before you ... but the majority haven't.
Speaking for myself I was 22 before I got myself seduced ... and yes I went through all the insecure angst stuff before that happened ... and quite honestly I continued to go through the insecure angst stuff after I was deflowered: having sex didn't stop me feeling vulnerable or unattractive!!! That's altogether a different problem.
BUT, if your hormones are driving you, and you want pussy and you want it now, I hear ya man, I hear ya.
What I would say from my own "first" experience, is that it was sweet, loving, and a nice memory. I'm pretty sure paid sex wouldn't have worked that way for me ... but that's just me and the way I am, equally I'm sure a lot of guys pay for their first time and for them it is their own happy memory.
Being fat during my early teenager years, I never had the self confidence to ask a girl out.
I do want to point out this is backwards thinking: you're probably fat because you feel insecure and vulnerable, not lacking confidence because you're fat. OK there is a vicious circle there where they feed each other,
but I do want you to get that as far as sex is concerned: confidence comes first, and is SUFFICIENT. Once you have confidence, it doesn't matter if you're fat or not ... and that's a good thing because losing weight takes months whereas increasing your confidence CAN happen overnight.
Reason this is important to get is that girls actually don't care how YOU look. What girls want is for you to make THEM feel sexy ...
OK girls can be really nasty and push your buttons, but they're doing it to test your insecurity not to reject your figure. They'll fuck a fat guy if he's confident and makes them look good to her friends. And girls WILL test your self-confidence, every time. They want you to answer back.
Sure, I can confirm that being in shape will get you more attention, I've been both sides of that picture ... her friends will be more jealous of her if she's next to a hunk ... but you must always remember that a boring or insensitive hunk will attract her LESS than a fat guy who is entertaining, makes her laugh, and makes her feel desired but not creeped out.
Strongly suggest
- read up more about attracting and seducing girls - there are great books and a ton of free stuff on the internet
- consider starting with a massage + HJ before you go for full sex. That'll relieve the pressure (literally) and help you to think more clearly about what you really want.
- and if having considered it, paid sex appeals to you, go enjoy yourself to the max ...
If you do decide to wait, and want to get a "real" girl here are some tips:-
1. Spend time with girls. Any girls, and LOTS of girls. Just spend time with them, hanging out, talking to them. Tip: talk about THEM, not you. Get them to talk about themselves. Girls love it if you are interested in them, it's step 1 of the mating ritual. Oh, and if you can remember what they said - things like how they take their coffee, the names and occupations of their family members, favourite sexual position, etc. - they get totally blown away ... that's step 2 of the mating ritual: match and mirror.
2. If any girl is rude to you or criticises you, be rude to her or critise her. Go on, I dare you to!! If she's rude to you and you're rude back, worst case she'll walk off in a huff, which is exactly what you want ... don't waste time on arrogant bitches or princesses ... you'll eliminate the girls who don't deserve your time, and you might just find they get turned on by your unexpected riposte. Confidence means the confidence to walk away and find another girl ... which hooks her deeply in her feminine insecurity.
3. What turns a girl off is a "wuss" or a "creep"
4. What turns a girl on is someone who makes her laugh, who knows how to flirt, and (hottest of all) can use sexual innuendo in a casual conversation about day-to-day matters.
Roughly speaking, as far as I can translate the infinitely intractable female mind, a wuss is someone who is weak-willed and is afraid of rejection.
And a creep is a clingy and possessive guy who is more interested in what he wants from her than in what she wants from him. Rougly speaking, that is ...
... avoid those, and you're pretty much on pussy highway ... spend time with a girl, MAKE HER LAUGH, and she will either want you next time her hormones kick in, i.e. every month, or you'll end up meeting one of her friends who wants sex with you.
You don't have to be very good at the game to start winning,
but you do have to be in it to win it.
Girls want sex. Trust me on that one. Even the young hot girls want sex and are open to casual sex. No: ESPECIALLY the young hot girls want sex ...
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