In my humble opinion....
Why are you in such a hurry to "lose your virginity"?
When we talk to our sisters / daughters, we often tell them to hang on to it because it's a gift you can only give once. While the whole "gift" isn't so prevalent for guys, a first time for MOST things is something that's special and you'll likely hold it close to your heart until you start getting old and senile.
True, the chances of one marrying their first and only is getting slim, but shouldn't it be special? and be with someone special?
De-virginisation isn't going to make you more confident. And unless you're ENTIRELY comfortable with the whole WG thing (ie, like @devilgodspeed who's experience is one of camaraderie and had a whole team cheering him on), there's also a chance that you'll feel guilty when you DO find a girlfriend and she asks you about your "first experience".
I had plenty of GFs through high school and plenty more through college, and more than a few opportunities to "lose" my virginity. But I personally wasn't ready until after I was 22 and about to head into my final year at college. There's nothing wrong with waiting for the right moment. And if anyone tells you differently, they're just immature and a total ass.
My suggestion is to overcome your lack of confidence.
Confidence isn't about how you look. It's about believing in yourself. If you give me $200, I'd have no problem telling you what a wonderful guy you are for an hour either. but that's not going to build your confidence in yourself. Quite honestly, just stop thinking about it and welcome life. Enjoy life. Come what may.
Bonne chance.
~UD | |
