Reply #9 pijyske's post
I loved this listing of our domestic-life options. Bang on true for 90% of married men. Make your choice, plan for it, live with it. Remember as well, many women may believe their SO is cheating but don't want to KNOW. This is a crucial difference. They can live with believing - denial is a powerful tool - but may not be able to handle knowing (pride, face, peer-pressure, etc.). So they WANT to believe your lies, and maybe not ask obvious questions that they won't like the asnwer to.
Anyway -- HK100 a week???? WTF?!!? That's 3 Starbucks cappuccinos. I spend that daily just on coffee. More actually. If you can't extract more than that of YOUR OWN MONEY than you have seriously crawled into a submissive corner with your SO. You need to start digging your way out of that hole. My SO never knows how much cash we have, how much I spend, where I spend it, etc. She has access to all the cash she needs at any time to buy whatever she (or the household) needs. So she needs no further detail or explanation. And she doesn't ask.
Another tip: separate work and home completely! Do not introduce your SO to anyone at work. This way you can use work as a great excuse ALL the time (dinners, meetings, working late, trips to Beijing, whatever) and she has no "insider" to leak information (accidentally or not). My SO has been here four years and never met a single co-worker. This, more than anything, opens up TONS of free time... | |
