As much as you say things change, I'm not so sure how much the world has really changed. And your story isn't restricted to CP or China. Hell it happens all the time since the dawn of time all over the world.
Back in my day as a youth, where pros were not so prevalent and money was not so available, was the game not the same?
Guys would lure girls out with suave hair, flash some cash to take regular girls to entertaining venues such as a theatre or restaurant with their fancy cars (a ford cortina MK2 would get you laid. It didn't take a ferrari/lambo to turn a head back then). We certainly didn't love ALLLL of those girls. And they certainly didn't all love me from the first day (and for some, any day for that matter). And yes, the point from a guy's perspective was to get them to open up their legs. And from the girl's perspective to lure in the best catch to hopefully have a guy marry them, take care of them, send money to her parents monthly.
The only difference between a pro and any of my ex-girlfriends (and ex-wives for that matter) is the speed at which the transition takes places. Where a pro sets a fixed number for instant gratification, a gf sets her sights higher with bigger risk due to a later potential paydate (although more than one ex-gf has been known to play more than 1 batter at a time), and an wife locks you down with a guarentee of ripping half of your guts the instant you sign with her.
I have seen love from pros (pro-turned gfs), I have seen false love from wives (chicks who never were pros to begin with but married knowing they are instant cha-ching once signed). And I know too many guys who married a pro who are clueless they have married a pro and know none the better and they are both happily married and in love.
The one thing I've noticed. If you've grown up to be an asshole, whether you're shy or not. When shit hits the fan, you're an asshole. If you've grown up to be a gentleman, no matter how much your shoe is shined or whether you hit a slump, you still treat others with respect and act the gentleman that you are (unless of course they deserve it).
Conversely, a chick that wants you for money, wants you for money. Pro or otherwise. If you still can't tell when a chick wants you for money, it's a hard and long road to walk brother and I hope you find some shortcuts eventually or you're gonna have very little money unless you stay with a fixed price chick for money (ie a pro pay for play) or of course, you're lucky and don't encounter a chick like that. And please don't tell me you think the $500 bucks or the black credit card in your wallet is what a chick who wants you for money wants. A man's value is his existing assets PLUS potential assets from ALL future possible derivatives whether inheritance, job, desperations and gambles.
In general, everything in this world is an illusion. The only truth that a person can ever truely see is when you look at yourself hard in the mirror and accept it for what it is. However, I believe too many people look in a mirror and still prefer to see an illusion.
Just because you're a nice guy, it doesn't mean you're going to live a nice and healthy long life. And just cuz you're an asshole, it doesn't mean you're going to croak at the next dark corner. It's also a probability that because you're the nice guy, you're a lamb and thus a good target to rob and if you freak shit and scream, get your throat slit in the process. There are no guarentees in life. But rather than be nice for fear of death or be an ass for fear of perception, perhaps we should look in the mirror and be whatever we are because that is what we are.
Having finished typed this, I just checked. I'm on a punter's forum?!? Perhaps punters are the most self-reflective, philosphical and intellectual people in the world! | |
