I think flirting and trying to get a girl into bed can sometimes take quite a bit of work and patience. Having both pooned and gone the pick up artist route for some time I can say that in the long run I would prefer to just pay, lay and then go away. 
I once believed that the girls' cultures came into play and that would be a heavy determinate factor on the success rate. Over time, I've learnt that there are some universal concepts that are essentially hardwired into the female brain, and this is regardless of where they are or from. So culture doesn't matter as much as I thought.
1. Confidence - If you are confident, it shows and girls generally like guys who are confident.
2. A good sense of humor - this is a big plus. Girls who laugh are generally more attracted to the guys and are more likely to flirt. However, don't be a clown or a full time entertainer just to please her every time she stops smiling. Then you start losing the attraction and become an expected court jester.
3. Pleasant surprises that show you pay attention in trying to understand her. - Girls love little surprises. No I'm not talking about flowers. I'm talking about getting to understand the girl and predicting positive things about her.
4. Communicate - this naturally ties into everything. If you can't communicate, you're fucked. Or should I say you're less likely to get fucked. Once I was in Shanghai and I couldn't speak any mandarin, so naturally it was very difficult for me to flirt with the girls and they wouldn't talk to me despite my buddyteasing me and telling me that the girls all thought I was very handsome and wanted to get to know me. 
Yes, most girls are materialistic and they want nice, very nice things. But on top of that, some do want to meet guys who can connect with them on an emotional level as well.
I want to also say that it can be difficult to simply to go up flirt, seduce, and then expect to fuck most girls. There is a general order on how things are done.
Girls usually need to be attracted to you, there has to be some chemistry, then there has to be comfortably. Once that is established, and if you're lucky it can be done quickly, if not then it may take days. Then you can build on seduction. Also the girl also has be physically comfortable. It starts with light, perhaps playful touches, escalating into hand holding, then light kisses, making out, and then sex. Moving directly from light touch to sex is hard to execute simply because the girl is not comfortable enough yet to physically bond. It's like climbing a ladder. You don't move from the 1st rung to the 5th rung in one step. You move up each step one at a time.
As I mentioned, it can be a lot of work, but it can also be rewarding. I remember the first few times I successfully PUA'd my way a girl in bed. I felt like I was on top of the world. But on the other side of the coin, my failure rate was also high. For every 10 girls I tried to flirt with, I'd say 7.5 would not even get to the light touch phase and I'd be shot down. It's a percentages game really, and even the best pick up gurus will bomb out more often then not.
This is why I prefer pay for pooning, and usually with girls who have good attitudes and personalities. It's just much easier and more fun. | |
