Well sinking can work out, but it usually does not. I've sunk a few times. The likelihood of it going bad after you sink is very high, but it does not always end bad. I've paid my "tuition fees" on this, you learn and it does getting better as you learn. Also the kind of relationship you get from sinking does get better with experience of sinking and then resurfacing. Done it a few times, I was very green when it first happened, there was no 141 website at the time. I think there was the WSG but that place was not much for advice on this subject at the time.
My advice for those who are sinking or have sunken is to take it slow. Its a long road and its a really difficult road. You will need to make a lot of sacrifices and have a lot of understanding. The key is to becareful, these types of relationships cannot start with trust, it goes the other way round. If you want to sink, fine, but never start by giving total trust. That she will need to earn it from you. In today's world of technology we have it a lot easier to find out the truth. I'm sure i could write a book about this but I'm kinda lazy.........
Sinking ship and denying it is a bad sign. If you're sinking, just own up to it. Whats there to be ashamed of? You are a person, she is a person, no reason why you can't be together, albeit the odds are stacked against you.
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