The Free things in life are always the most Expensive.
If you don't believe that, then you obviously buy into front-load unit trusts and buy extended warranty on all your soon-to-be outdated gadgets.
The attitude of "I don't pay for it" is often borne out of engrained sense of shame or guilt/sin, which is prevalent in western society. I see this attitude often in my friends from Canada, the USA, and to a lesser extent, UK, and Europe.
Where you don't see much of this kind of guilt is Eastern Europe, Russia, Australia, and especially Asia.
Asians treat sex pretty much like food. You try what you like when you like, and when something looks appetizing, why not? The guilt simply isn't there for many Asians.
Attitudes of Asian women are also a little bit different. Many Asian women tolerate the husband fooling around, with one caveat, that it's not a relationship, and that they don't know anything about it, and their friends know nothing about it. As long as you are discrete, support the family, have the right priorities, they often turn a blind eye. This can be due more to dependence on the husband as the breadwinner, but often it's accepted as a normal practice that they can't do anything about.
I haven't met many Caucasian women who say "it's ok if my guy cheats on me, just as long as he comes home to sleep in our bed". I have met many Asian girls who have told me this.
I once asked an older partner of mine, who professed an undying love for his wife, but goaded me to go out with him every night, when he would cheat on his wife mercilessly with a bevy of young nubile women.
I asked him a question, "No offense, but I don't understand something. You claim to love your wife so much, but why then do you cheat on her every night?"
His answer was, "If I don't cheat on her, I'll get bored, and then I'll start hating her for trapping me into this boring life. This way, I have my fun, and when I go home, I know from up to date experience that my wife is definitely one of the better women out there."
Me: "But what does your wife think about that?"
Him: "She pretends not to know, but she knows I love her the most."
Me: "How does she know that?"
Him: "Because when she wakes up in the morning, she knows I'll be there."
If a guy thinks he's getting it for free, he is either delusional, or Kevin Federline.
Frankly speaking, in Hong Kong/Macau, getting a decent looking civvie girl into bed is usually much more expensive than going to a sauna. If you discount all the calls, texts, time, lunches, dinners, coffees, and gifts, you are only fooling yourself. | |
