I'm in an odd mood at the moment so a bit of a personal rant here.
I didn't know whether to post this in eataroundthebush's excellent thread at http://forum.sex141.com/eforum/viewthread.php?tid=36468 or to create a new thread or to just post it here. Well, I'm just going to post it here. This short story is another one many of us have heard before. Falling for a WG for all the wrong reasons.
So I recently fell for another working girl. I think this is #4 for me now but to different degrees with each one. Honestly, this is #2 that I've had (unintentional) thoughts and discussions about marrying. Sometimes us guys who see WGs confuse and mistake sex with having an emotional connection. WGs do this as a job and see us only as clients. Even WG friends (and strictly friends) that I've made over the years have told me that they maintain a strict distinction between work and love. My latest act of foolishness however was fortunate in that it didn't cost me too much financially but I'll admit that it broke my heart. She's a fantastic liar and I can only tell this story because even her own WG friends, who themselves are always hustling guys and had a good laugh at my expense, took pity on me and think that she's gone too far with the lies. Here are some of the things that she's told me over the months and in square brackets what is actually the truth.
- She's divorced from her ex-husband. [She's still married but separated. The husband still loves her and refuses to sign the divorce papers. He still sends her money.]
- She left her ex-boyfriend. [They're still together, have been for six years and talk on the phone in Mandarin every day. Sometimes when I've been in the room with her. She knows that I don't understand Mandarin. In Hong Kong she lives at the boyfriend's home and the guy knows about her separated husband]
- She has no kids. [She has two kids with the separated husband though she admitted this later on.]
- She wants to have another child, this one with me. [We've gone bareback like boyfriend/girlfriend and outside of her workplace like any normal dating couple. Actually she's had tubal ligation (her tubes are tied).]
- She used to work at a chaa lau (茶樓) in Hong Kong. [She worked at a 141/161 walkup and had for years.]
- She came to Canada as a tourist but before returning to Hong Kong a friend told her about becoming a WG. [Actually her friend and several other of her friends in Canada that I've met were all neighbours and WGs in Hong Kong. They came to Canada because WGs here make 2 to 3 times more money than in Hong Kong. All of her WG friends have husbands or boyfriends who know what they're doing in Canada. Also, all of them have kids.]
- She doesn't have much money and has to work to support her mother and her kids. [She's also supporting her real boyfriend who loves her as much as any person can. Some of her best clients in Hong Kong gave her thousands of American(!) dollars to cover the cost of her vacation in Canada.]
- She has often asked how much money I have, saying that her friends say that I'm poor and she just wants to prove them wrong. [She's been sizing me up trying to figure out how much money I'd be willing to give her.]
- She's never given her phone number to any clients. [Actually she has a roster of dedicated clients who repeatedly see her and I've been in the room when they called. Her giving them her new walkup address gave that away.]
- One of her WG friends kept trying to convince her to marry me. [This WG friend was and still is stringing along a guy herself who has fallen for her.]
- Her friends back home in Hong Kong think that we're a great match. [She's been bragging to her friends about how gullible I am, how much I love her and how I'll support/sponsor her financially without question even without living in Hong Kong with her.]
So how did I learn all of this?
- She openly bragged about all of this in front of her WG friends.
- One of her WG friends took pity on me. This one had warned me weeks ago and for a long time I thought it was just jealousy among girls. This WG knew all of my girl's other WG friends back in Hong Kong and had detailed, intertwining stories for all of them which made sense based on what these girls had already told me in past normal conversation.
- She began asking more and more questions about the state of my finances as well as my current and past salaries. While this is somewhat a taboo subject in western culture for me, I didn't think much into it because I know that Asian cultures freely talk about personal salaries.
- She "unsaved" for lack of better words her QQ account from my iPhone. Another harmless thing but in the past she always played on her QQ on my iPhone and knew that I had access to it. She must have realized that she was receiving messages from her real boyfriend and that I would be able to see them.
- She no longer calls me every day. This actually makes me sound pretty insecure and needy. In a real relationship you would call/talk/chat with your boyfriend/girlfriend every day. We did that for months. Like many women she talks to almost all of her friends every day. Not with me anymore though.
- I've seen recent photos of my girl and her real boyfriend in embrace like any normal photo that a couple takes together. I think I'm a much better catch than him but they've been together for six years whereas I'm just a random guy she met in a different country and probably won't even contact again in a few months.
What signs did I miss?
- She has openly said on numerous occasions that she's no good and that I shouldn't be with her. When I asked why she always gave lame answers like our age difference (4 years) or our education difference. She had been hinting for me to get out before my heart really fell for her.
- She has openly said that I can mess around with other WGs if I wanted to. The gentleman in me would never do this since I was with her. Originally I thought she said this because she felt guilty about being a WG but actually it was another hint for me to get out before being too deeply involved.
- One of her WG friends said to me specifically that we wouldn't work out if I moved to Hong Kong. I never asked why but she did direct her statement specifically to me and not my girl or us.
Where am I now? What thoughts or advice do you have for me?
- Well, my girl doesn't know that I now know the truth. And I can't reveal that I know because I can't break the trust with the WG who took pity on me as my girl would instantly know who revealed everything.
- The sex with my girl is absolutely fantastic! Honestly, I'm pretty sure that I'm going to continue playing her game just for the sex. Yea the sex will now likely be a monthly thing versus the previous daily occurrence but it's better than no sex at all I suppose.
- The day will come when she'll seriously ask me for money. I have no idea what I should say. Part of me thinks at that point I should say, "A ha! I've known for months the game that you've been playing!" but she would know exactly who told me everything and I can't cause that other person who helped me to "lose face." That last part doesn't make logical sense if you're not Asian and yes I know that to us westerners it's silly. Obviously I could just say no or ignore her request but that would make me feel weird.
Really, the sex we have is fantastic! What hurts me the most is that her personality is exactly my type, but now I have no idea if it was all part of her act or not. When I think back to before we became friends and began dating her personality and demeanor was the same, but then again her own friends have said that she's a great liar. I think she's working me long term and won't ask for money until she knows that I'm in too deep. If I'm wrong she'll dump me within the next few weeks and everything above will be verified as true.
I'm still looking for holes in the story, both from my girl and the girl who revealed to me the truth. I can't ask any other of the WGs in her circle because they'll probably just cover for her. They'll also inform my girl that I've been asking a lot of questions. But what else can I do.
Anyways, that's my latest sad, foolish story. | |
