Reply #3057 SEAJ's post
Dear Abby, er, I mean SEAJ,
Your advice is usually right on target. No worries about your posts from me, though I do find some of the discussions disturbingly frank. I am not so open to discuss my own personal frailties and I was not expecting such on this site. But if the group at large doesn't mind these discussions, in fact seems to support them, who am I to rock the boat.
@ gonuts;
I must admit that at first I thought your posts were a crock, just fictional comments posted to liven up this thread. But you seem sincere and have actively joined in on other discussions. So I would like to add my two cents on your earlier post of "just pounding away during sex".
Good sex isn't about pounding away until you ejaculate, or in your case, run out of steam. That's just the male's need to keep the species alive. "Good" sex is about sharing the experience with your partner. That is why you have been advised to work with the civvie population first rather than just WG's. While it is sometimes possible to connect with a WG, it is not a guarantee. With a civvie there is usually some personal connection made prior to having sex which then leads to a mutual desire to share the experience. If you are worried about your weight or appearance in general then SEAJ is right. Lower your expectations a bit until you have more confidence and then start looking for the girl of your dreams. Also, sex discussion aside, for your own personal health it sounds like you need to get more exercise. The gym is not for everyone, but it is usually convenient. But you can start out slowly just by walking a couple of miles every day and then work your way into more demanding activities.
Back to the topic off pounding away. As I said, good sex is a shared experience. It is not a race to the finish and you don't have do all the work. Try CG for a while. You can catch your breath while the gal does most of the work. Changing to other different positions gives you a few seconds in between to slow things down. I also find that gals, if they are into sharing the experience, like a change of pace too. If they are starting to get excited, slow down for a few minutes and tease them while you catch your breath, then increase speed again. Changing depth of penetration can have the same effect. I often do this several times and it usually results in a much better result for the gal. Again, this works better with civvies. Many WG's just want to get it over with and will actually encourage you to just pound away.
Just my two cents, accept or reject. I leave that up to you. 
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