Reply #3055 gonuts's post
A girl is only a virgin until you pop her cherry that first time. From then on, I don't see why it matters in terms of trusting her more or less - that is to say, you certainly don't have any physical clues to see if she's cheating. With that said, I get what you're saying. Everyone wants to believe that they're the one that the girl has given herself entirely to, they don't want to think that some other guy took her precious virginity, etc.
There is of course also the romance side to things, where the whole star-crossed lovers were fated to be with only each other. But come on man, you're posting on a forum called sex141, and presumably engaging in some less than pristine acts yourself. Don't sweat it if she was in love with her bf 5-6 years ago and gave it up then.
On another unrelated note, the issue of virginity is fairly ironic sometimes. One of my female friends, worried about her virginity, actually went as far as to make a 'secret pact' with one of her male friends (not myself  ) to help her lose it once she turned 21, since she didn't want to be that "weird girl that no guy likes enough to sleep with." It was unfortunate, since she was stupid enough to post about the event on what she thought was a private journal, and someone got a hold of it. Basically, the guy that she had had a crush on for years, who ironically was actually quite smitten with her at the time, ended up hearing about it and seeing the post, was devastated and never recovered from the fact after he found out his friend had taken her virginity in some stupid "pact."
In essence, she lost out on a potential SO, and he lost out on the girl of his dreams, all because there was just too much fuss about whether or not a girl has experienced sex before. It was even sadder because it was one of the potential couples that people would have the "just get a room already" reaction to. Moral of the story, such as it is? Don't sweat the issue of virginity, it really should not be that important. | |
) to help her lose it once she turned 21, since she didn't want to be that "weird girl that no guy likes enough to sleep with." It was unfortunate, since she was stupid enough to post about the event on what she thought was a private journal, and someone got a hold of it. Basically, the guy that she had had a crush on for years, who ironically was actually quite smitten with her at the time, ended up hearing about it and seeing the post, was devastated and never recovered from the fact after he found out his friend had taken her virginity in some stupid "pact."