Reply #3055 gonuts's post
Ok gonuts (and I'm probably really gonna get flamed for this) you've been here basically baring your soul to us and I just cain't help but to now want to TRY to steer you in the right direction.
Yes strictly from the few words that you have written here and most probably NOT accurate/relevant or even wise - and of course all IMHO opinion only. But since you've bared your all to us - I feel it only right that I should also be straight with you (but of course feel VERY free to ignore it all) in this a truly idle chat thread.
First thing first - you really do need to look after your body better - letting it balloon to 104 KG with your height at 24 YO is a sure road to health problems later on in life - AND IMHO part of the reason why you're having problems with getting civvie GF's. If you KNOW you're unfit and not LOOKING THE BEST THAT YOU CAN BE, of course you would not have confidence. And confidence is at least 50% of the reason for success in most things in life.
So, please go to the Gym, slim down, spend some money getting a few nice clothes, groom yourself well and fastidiously and you've set 50% of the stage towards success.
Second - yes masturbation is not much harm - but ANYTING DONE TO EXCESS is bad for you - and in your case, its even made you addicted to it - to the point that even sex with a rea gal doesn't result in satisfaction. You've beat your dick to only be responsive to your own ministrations.
Third, don't have too many ideals, imagery of your perfect woman - just go out and get to know one and all. Really, don't obsess on ideals and just mix with girls and enjoy the companionship of friends FIRST (And take that gaze away from her body!!). Go out, have fun, enjoy other's company and sooner or later a girl or another is going to gravitate to you. And guess what - you'd be surprised that even if she wasn't a "perfect" specimen, you're gonna also enjoy her company....and you could AND should take it from there.
Fourth - I PERCEIVE that you're spending way too much time on the computer....as is the case with too many younger guys these days; going to porn sites, chatting up gals on it, on this forum etc etc. Well IMHO, the computer is such a bad killer of a person's personality and social skills. What you need to do is mix with people - girls and guys - in real life. Go for meals together, coffee, socials, charity drives, whatever - but be with REAL people i/o your keyboard.
I'd really like other's POV's on this matter - just don't come down on me too hard for being a "know-it-all father knows best" please. I really just want to steer gonuts in the right direction.
Good luck to you gonuts - and thanks y'all
SEAJ
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