@ gonuts
hi gonuts. here's the deal. you are PERFECTLY NORMAL. okay? look at yrself in the mirror and say "i'm a sexually normal guy."
jerking off: u control the physical motions, u can make the stimulation soft and gentle OR frantic as you please. u get instant feedback. u know what feels good and can make instant adjustments.
there's no hassles with the libido either, no body issues, no nothing. you're completely comfortable. u can even watch porn and pretend yr the guy fucking this hot bod in Chatsworth California because that's where all that USA porn is made. threesome with Asian co-eds in plaid skirts? anything u want, as long as it's not REAL.
gonuts, ALL of us were nervous when we first visited a working gal. i almost threw up. i was used to civvies cuz when yr a teenager, yr gonna get after it...that's what teenagers DO. but sexual services with a stranger can play havoc with yr mind, esp the parts of the subconscious that u aren't aware of.
then there's the physical stuff. sex with someone who KNOWS what u like (and vice versa) is simpler than with someone who u just met. oral and vaginal sex provide less intense stimulation than handjobs. all of this means that while u may be a master-masturbator, in a strange environment with a stranger and a running-clock, those hand-jive skills just don't count. relax. yr not alone in this. yr a GUY.
so, if u do want to experience orgasm during yr WG sessions, yes--leave the dick alone. stop jerking off. if yr used to jerking off every time u watch porn, likely best to leave the porn OFF. wait a few days, then try it in the saddle.
remember that porn isn't sex, it's the advertisement for sex. it isn't real. those sweaty meat-studs aren't making much money but they have to spend long hours on cold sets hoping the Viagra doesn't wear off. even the phoniest WG is more real than those blonde-haired silicon-titted starlets, who make more money than the guys but rarely last more than a few years in the biz. real women are a lot more interesting.
if u approach the WG-situation with a sense of play, you'll have more fun (assuming the gal isn't exhausted or just not into it or into you, it happens). bring 'em fruit. smile. sex is fun. it will NOT be the same as jerking off to porn. wait until you're ready, and if u do adopt it as A Hobby, u will find yr comfort-zone.
some guys like HGs, they're great if u find a good one, but sometimes it's good to start with service-oriented places like 37D, K-P or a good Chinese sauna. a good technician will help u with the technical issues. it's a matter of finding out what works for you in the REAL world, not the fake world of porno.
makes sense? if u had no interest in exploring the hobby, u wdn't be posting here. yr concerned about inability to cum with a WG, but it really is in your mind: yr body has gotten used to tailor-made, intense stimulation and sex with a woman isn't that. it's a mutual pact, but one with great interest and variations. it's worth the journey. but that starts with getting off the porn-hamster-wheel and letting yr natural instincts take over. the next steps are up to you.
good luck, bro, and if u want erotic tales, there are many on this forum. read, and let your mind wander.
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