Originally posted by wander at 5-10-2011 13:52
By repeating with bargirls I have already set myself up for success. You spend time with her in the bar to see how you click. You are having fun and chatting and getting to know each other before ever hitting the bed the first time. The ones where there is no connection are tossed early. So you see, I've already filtered the gals down to those that are enjoying themselves with me (or are damn good and faking it). As I repeat more often we get to know a lot about each other. I enjoy learning about them and I suppose they sense my genuine interest. They feel safe and comfortable.
I would think that bargirls would be especially prone to the punter's mentality. The fact that they can set their own hours, can pick and choose, and generally have fun is a mongering life. It has become a lifestyle. The only difference is that for us the money is flowing in the wrong direction.
Contrast that to someone working in a hotel, walkup, or brothel, where they have limited to no choice, a fixed workplace, and fixed hours, with much fewer chances of building relationships - Maybe more like being a hairdresser than a girlfriend. |
