Reply #1 mchk's post
Speaking as a gweilo ...
YES it is a cultural thing. To those of us used to different cultures, it is somewhat bemusing how HK girls expect guys to pay for everything. And no, they don't feel obliged to do anything other than show up and try to look pretty. That's what their mothers and girlfriends told them to do.
It just is what it is, no point ranting about it.
So you have a simple choice: do you accept the terms? Or do you limit who you date with?
You're only a chump if you thought she agreed to a deal that she didn't deliver on. But it doesn't sound like you either expected to sleep with her, nor did you ask her to share the bills at any time.
The GOOD side of this princess sickness is it greatly reduces the field by eliminating guys from contact with girls unless they can afford to pay, thereby tilting the tables in favour of rich geeks. It also lets you very quickly get a feel of whether the girl is likely to show cultural sensitivity: if she goes 'dutch' at your first meeting or offers to pay for your second one, you know she's aware of the issue and is making a proactive choice to reach out to you. If she shares the bill it's because she wants a foreigner not just a HK-style walking wallet as a partner, and is demanding to be treated as an equal.
The situation's not at all unique - the combination of any two cultures has its own unique pitfalls, and its own unique benefits ... | |
