Reply #17 mickeyblue's post
Thanks for your reply - and indeed you ARE a lucky guy.
And I REALLY do wish you all the best for the future - but I can see so many things going wrong.
The concept of marriage is of course exclusivity - and to me, involving anybody else within the framework of marriage is just too full of hidden dangers. Yeah, you're probably saying - what about you? What about the gals on the side?
Well, yes I of course have "others" on the side - but such person(s)/relationships are definitely NOT within the sanctum of our marriage.
As far as trust is concerned - I'm just making do with what is available/the situation as it is; the situation is that males are hound-dogs. Period.
And as far as making do is concerned - well, no matter what I do on the outside, it does not/should not affect my marriage - as my outside activities is totally out of her realm...and our marriage.
Except for the part about being "exclusive to each other," I still live up to the rest of my marriage vows. She's happy, I'm happy and our marriage still thrives.
Like I said though, my kudos to you - but I'd rather think that most marriages will NOT survive the conditions you and your wife has imposed upon it. Except for the matter of keeping the family together for the sake of the children - what more is there in such an "Open" marriage? What's the difference with NOT being married? And "for the sake of the children" is also fraught with dangers/repercussions that may even backfire on the very kids you're keeping your marriage together for.
Respect and responsiblity - that is what I believe in marriage - and I am respecting my SO as best as I could manage - and I certainly do live up to my responsiblities to her and my family.
Just my POV - which I certainly do not want to impose on anyone else.
SEAJ
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