Hey Guys, Final update
Wow, so much has happened.
Ok so firstly, she was testing me about the whole 'bring another girl in' thing. i finally decided to set it up for Friday night, picked up a nice looking viet girl from Neptunes (who i explained what i was looking for to) and took this new girl back to mine
So we were texting and things were all arranged for her to come over, Night drags on a bit and she still hasnt arrived. I'm a little drunk that night, and probably not my best judgement but i think, mmm best not to let the rice go cold. So i do what a guy would. I eat whats in front of me
Anyways long story short, my original girl doesnt come that night, got caught up working etc. I kicked the viet girl out after one shot (which in itself was hard work) because she just wasnt doing it for me.
However she does come round the next afternoon, sees the evidence (well finds), even though id hidden the packet RIGHT at the bottom of the bin in the bathroom, but doesnt tell me, just acts all distant and aloof for about 2 hours. Didnt push anything with her sexually, as it was obvious she was pissed about something. After a little while, i figure it must be woman related (isnt it always), to cut long story short, i told her what happened the previous night. She goes quiet for a minute and tells me she aready knows. and that we should talk. and so we began possibly our most open and intimate talk since we met. She says, turn the light off, its hurting my eyes so i did
please note the following is my memory of the main points, its been a couple of days so may have missed points, it the gist of it anyways, most of its shortened.
We talk about a whole load of things, My life back home, my girlfriend, my expectation of things, of her, and how unexpected this whole thing has been, and about how i never thought she was doing this for anything more than a bit of fun, and that i genuinely thought she was ok with it (was careful not to mention money)
She talks about her life (btw her dad was some sort of boyfriend to her mum who disappeared sometime after she found out she was pregnant, previous poster hit it on the head)
, about meeting people in the past hoping to 'snag' them. long distance bfs etc, most of the stuff previous posters have mentioned and it seems is pretty common in thai culture for WG's. and how Hong Kong for her was just a working assignment that she had no expectations from, bar going home with a decent amount of money. Certainly there was no expectation that she would meet anyone
She told me she had me figured straight away, that i knew girls, the way they are, the way they act and what they really mean when they say things. That I wasnt a typical whoremonger (she was right, im ok with it, but it has never been a consumng passion in my life) more a serial relationship guy. and that she knew i wasnt looking for someone to pay to spend time with. I asked why she was here with me then and she told me, its strange. That i didnt look/act like i wanted the things that most of the men she meets does, she decided what the hell. He seems like a nice guy. lets go out with him and see what happens.
She told me that we got on well in her eyes and that after a very short period of time we started to get on very well. Its true that we did speak a lot, maybe noone really ever took the time to get to know her. just one proper ex BF (thai,lazy as fuck etc) and that she never thought there'd be any chemistry because horniness isnt a trait common in WG's, but that the intensity of it shocked her, that some nights she rushed through work desperately so she could finsh and come pounce on me (i was shocked at this, i mena i agree it was amazing, i just hoght she was very professional!)
and also because of this, how disappointed she was that i had done what i had done. I thought about trying to blag it, to make an excuse. but then thought no fuck it. if we're being honest i might as well be. i told her i was disappointed she wasnt there, and that i did what i did because it was on offer, and that at the time she was most likely doing the same thing with someone else. Also i thought t cant hurt for her to know, it wasnt all that great so i told her that too
Surprisingly, though she hated my actions, she appreciated my honesty (her ex was a lying worm of a man, her words and that the only thing she'd ever want in a man is someone who no matter what they do wrong, can admit to it) she said, that lying is what causes the most shit in a reationship and that she had lied about being ok with me with other girls.
That she understood that doing what she does, and the way we met, that she didnt have much expectations on that score. she believes every fucks around, she just wanted to know what type of man am i afterwards.
Im still laughing inward about what she said next, that i was the best kind of man. who knows people have weaknesses but refuse to live life in any way but the way i see fit. and not apologising for the things ive done. and that even though i did what i did, in a strange way, she knew she could trust me, at least to tell the truth.
I reach over and touch her face in the dark, her whole face and pillow are wet with tears, i say fuck, what an arsehole i am. and she tells me no, it isnt about last night, just unhappy because life is just a bit shit most of the time
remember thinking fuck me, this girl isnt even 20 yet, how young to be feeling like that. to be fair she deserves to have met someone a lot better than me.
I give her a hug till shes ok and ask her what happens now. she says its up to you.
Cue my turn to talk. i tell her the truth, That i can't offer her anything real. That i will be getting married next year. but if she still wants to be friends i would like to be, and that maybe i can go see her when i visit thailand. Then she absoluely stunned me with what she said next. im very rarely speechless but she caught me.
She thinks about it and says ok. we can be friends on one condition, she knows what people think of thai girls, that they all want to find a nice western husband who's rich. I protest and she cuts me off, saying hey i thought we were being honest. ok i admit, i did think there was a underlying something, not motive as such but a sense of. lets see what this lad is good for etc. she tells me she knows, she's used to people being wary. but that this wasnt the way it was. se said, we get on, we can be honest with each other always. If we can keep that, then we can b friends. So whats the condition, this is her reply
I need you to understand i mean the things i say. i was never here for money, that if she wanted to, the are a lot of easier men to screw money out of. this isnt what real friends do. in fact , if i ever offer her any money, she's walking. i bring up the sex thing, friends dont do that do they? well.. ok we can be special friends haha ok i say, special friends is ok. in fact special friends sounds good. i ask if i can take her out, buy her a small present, she says no present, but we can take each other out. (since then i bought her lunch once , she bought me lunch once. i took her for chinese, she took me for thai!) and the sex has been better than ever.
Is it just me or is this girl just wow?
Anyhow thats the gist of it, Im sitting at HK airport now waiting for the flight home, we have exchanged email addresses and ill probably stay in touch, As for back home, well there i really do feel guilty, i bought her a really nice necklace, hope it helps the guilt somewhat.
Thanks for taking the time to listen and advise guys, now that im back in the UK, there won't be much to report, but will stay active on the forums in case of anything coming up, and to share my views. and of course there will be more trips, plenty more i hope! | |
