Reply #33 gangster's post
You are absolutely right about men going to China, not so much about going to Hong Kong. 95% of my married friends have no excuse nor would their SOs allow them to go to China because they "know" what goes on in China. For me, I've been going to China for so many years now, not only for pleasure but because of the nature of my job I get to go to China whenever I need to which is usually 1 or 2 times a year. It's not like I go to China and come back with less money. So my family knows this, accepts this, and it's not an issue since I've never given my wife a chance to be suspicious of anything. I am incredibly careful because my family means so much to me, I know it's fucking hypocritical for me to say that, even ironic in a way but a guy's gotta do what a guy's gotta do. My business trips are actually really exhausting at times, but I usually allow myself a day or two extra to get my punt on, on top of my work. Even when I do overnighters, I usually go very early, and wake up at 5am, grab some food and video chat with my family at 6-9 while they are having dinner in the states, and still end up chatting with my wife till 12, then collapse for a few hours before I punt again. So right after dinner, I still go on video chat to see my kids and wife off to school and work, it's a bit tiring but I truly miss them even when I am punting. One of my friends says it best, "you can go to China by yourself, but when you have kids and a wife at home in the states, you will have fun for the 1 hour, but immediately after you will (GWAH) them, so it's never as fun as you think it is, until you go" (GWAH) in Cantonese meaning a mixture of WORRIED and MISSING someone. Like I said, you will feel the rush of independence at first but then you will be wanting to be trapped with your family again in very short time. Although I have friends who would leave their families if they ever hit the lottery, a lot of them are staying married for financial reasons. Me? I would share it all with them. To each his own | |
