Reply #1 uwotextbook's post
Originally posted by DArtagnan at 3-5-2010 12:19
Do you actually have any kids bro??? If so you should share your secret.
Parenting means:-
disrupted and greatly restricted social life
Biggest understatement of the century! LOL! Before I was married, I had many GFs, including my now wife. I fucked around, did my college thing, did my work thing and continued to play the field. No worries, NOTHING. Decided it was time to marry my now wife, bought the engagement ring, set everything up for the surprise, and married her because I love her. No pressure from my parents, no pressure from her parents, I actually married pretty early and it was 100% my decision. If my parents would have pushed, I would have told them to go fuck themselves, I come from a pretty liberal family. If I had not met my wife, I probably would not have gotten married. Like one of my siblings said, "Ah So must be pretty special for you to propose marriage" and she really is. Marriage was great! Spending time with the one you love, getting all those good things that were mentioned in post #1 but those lovey dovey feelings fade and "real deep true love" develops during a marriage if done right, otherwise like my other relationships, I'd get bored with the bitch and just break up.
The first child "SHOULD" be what both parties want and need, otherwise you or she would resent it forever. My first child was made from love and a desire for a child, I hate to admit it but my eldest is my favorite and always will be. After the child is born, and if you want to be a responsible father, it basically means all of the above what DArtagnan said, you literally fucking give up EVERYTHING! After my first, it was so fucking exhausting but yet so fucking awesome we had another, then another and 2 more on the way. I chose this life, I love this life. If you have any doubts, I have three words for you, NO STOP and DON'T. I have a lot of friends who were pressured into marriage, and they resent it so much that it affects everything in their lives.
Do I sometimes think? Man I wished I could have some time alone to punt, so that I don't have to worry about hickeys, perfumes, bath soaps, lipstick stains, strange calls from papa and mamasans. FUCK YES! There are times when I feel trapped, if I said otherwise I would be lying out of my ass, but in the end, the rewards (to me) trump everything else. I am a bit older, I don't fuck as much but I still get those "manly feelings" and wake up with woodies daily. I figured, a few rub and tug massages a month, a punt a week here in NYC will get me through most of my "NEEDS" but I still take that trip to China annually to allow those "NEEDS" to flood out, basically fuck til I can't fuck anymore or don't want to fuck anymore, and in the end you end up missing your family and wishing that they were there with you.
Once out of my system, I am back in the states, enjoying the family life and feeling pretty content until 3 months later when I can't wait to go back to China. You can even see my trends on this forum, right before I go back, I am on this shit and typing away like crazy, after the initial reports I dud out and spend time with the family till my "NEEDS" start to creep up again, then you will see me on the forum again.
Final word, marry if you really love the girl and really want to marry for the sake of love. Otherwise, just be free and if worse comes to worse, go to China and find a nice country bumpkin, knock her up a few times and still have the independent freedom of a bachelor. |
