I've recently established a regular WG relationship. We've met about 5 times now with about 15 ML sessions in that time. We even met one time for dinner recently when I happened to be in her neighborhood. There was no ML session in that instance, but she did show me her apartment! So, I guess it can be deemed a "relationship" due to these consistent get-togethers.
This girl, a Mongolian, is a university student. I think she has done some "working" on the side to make extra money, so she isn't in the typical socio-economic situation that you would encounter with PRC working girls here in China or in HK. The only time we've talked about money was the first time I met her. Since then, never once has she mentioned money, she has never asked me to buy her anything, or put any other expectation on me (financial or emotional). She is totally chill about the whole situation, and genuinely seems to enjoy our time together, as do I (it's easy to tell when girls are acting). Every instance in our time together is complete GFE from her part (even out in public). She is a really cool, provides nice conversation, and, of course great ML sessions. There are some other common interests.
In order to prevent the cross-over into a real GF situation, I always give her money (the same amount as the first time I met her) before she goes home after a night of ML. She has come to trust the fact that I'll give her money before she leaves, so maybe that's why she doesn't ask or pester for money. She also gets other incidentals like dinners, drinks, and a trustworthy friend (I do consider her a friend). I think it's a win-win situation for both of us, so I think we both feel lucky to have the situation.
I could easily move the relationship to being a real GF relationship, I think. In our last couple of times together, it seems that she wants it to go to that "real" level, but I think she doesn't say anything for fear of ruining the current situation (she might be thinking that I don't want a real GF and would get mad if she asked, so why ruin this). At the same time, I don't bring up that issue for the same reason of not wanting to ruin the situation (she might not want a real BF right now. . .). Yes, I do continue to pay money, but I can get out of the situation anytime I want because of that fact. I guess it can be said that I have feelings for her. I don't think of her as a piece of meat. She is a nice, caring, and beautiful human being after all who has real ambitions beyond the means in which we met and is very smart.
Her school is back in session, so I don't know how much she "works" outside of her "work" with me. If she still does go to the same place I met her, that's her business. I'm still out mongering when I'm travelling! And that's also why I continue to pay her money so I don't feel guilty when I'm mongering away from her.
Who knows what will happen with this "relationship." She may or may not only want the money even though she doesn't ask for it. All I know is that we are having a good time right now. And if something else blossoms between us and it works out, excellent. If we go our own ways after this "relationship", then so be it. | |
